I've been paying Child suport for 10 years get my kids on the weekend and try i have other children my $ is not the best but i make i guess on the flip side she got married has a huge house and is living well she tell me if i dont give her extra cash she will take me back to court so they can review my $ well this year i made 50 grand and the will raise it i guess but i cant afford it what should i do.
2007-02-21 16:27:15 · 8 answers · asked by CJ 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I just love answers from people based on what they THINK the law is.
In your case, it depends on what the laws are in your State. But normally, heres what happens. Since you've been paying for 10 years, she would have to Motion the local Child Support Court for a hearing on a increase. She will have to show the Court that there is a "changed need" in order to warrant a increase.
Some issues you might bring up....before she re-married, was she paying rent/mortgage, electric bill, water, cable, etc? Now that she has married and lives in a huge house, (I assume the new husband provides the huge house) she is no longer having to pay rent/mortgage, etc. So, in reality, you could argue for a DECREASE in support because her expenses have gone down. I wouldn't push the point, just leave the support as is, but you now have an arguement against her demand for increase.
And to the guy that answered that the first kids have the priority.....SHUT UP! You don't have the first clue to which you're talking about! Laws used to be like that, but recently, laws around the country have changed to now if you support other children, that support is included in figuring your "disposable income".
Bottom line is.....she is acting like a terrorist! Stand your ground and tell her to take you back to Court! She will have to show a "Change in circumstances" to warrant an increase. Aslo, new spouses don't like being dragged into legal battles with ex's. Want to make this go away? Hire an attorney to handle this matter, subpoena your ex's and new hubby's financial info! Bank statements, credit cards, stocks, IRAs, etc, etc. Watch how fast this case is dropped.
Good luck my friend......I speak from almost 20 years of dealing with child support courts!
2007-02-21 22:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by jonn449 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to the law, the first kids get priority. If you can not support them, you should not be having more kids. Pretty logical but many people with lots of kids never seem to be able to figure that out.
You made the bed, now you have to sleep in it. Now you know why divorce is so bad. Enjoy your kids on the weekend, make the payments and stop trying to have more.
2007-02-21 19:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, i imagine someone's' getting stated as out in this one. i'm a huge believer contained in the latter 2. yet, i'm no longer on welfare. That being stated, i imagine maximum welfare moms have highly gruesome tattoos and drink rank stuff, so I somewhat artwork to have adequate money the finer issues in existence. i'm getting your factor. yet having an additional $10 for some 40s or an additional $60 for a crappy tattoo isn't lifting everybody out of poverty. they ought to make your options up they opt for extra to artwork in the route of it.
2016-10-17 08:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Consumer Credit Counselling and see if they can help you make room for your child support payments by getting a better handle on any other debt you might owe (mortgages, credit cards, car payments, etc.) They don't charge for you to talk to them, and you'd be amazed at how much they can help. Since I'm sure helping your child is a priority for you, no matter how well your first wife lives, this may be an almost painfree option.
2007-02-21 16:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Vaughn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well get an attorney. If your paying what you can and its reasonable and you have other kids so they might consider leaving it just like it is. Alot of guys though only pay child support and if anything else happens they feel that there not obligated to help out. I hope that isnt your case, and please dont have anymore kids .
2007-02-21 16:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by This_Strong_Black_Woman!!!!!!! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to court, if she has the means to support the kids it should be determined there.
They can't get blood from a stone.
2007-02-21 16:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sgt 524 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Too bad, daddy...better find a second job. Whomever she is married to now and what HIS salary is is not considered in child support awards. He is not responsible for your children...you are.
Your current family and expenses for that family also have no bearing on it.....
And - FYI - she can have your salary reviewed every year for increase if she wants to.
2007-02-21 16:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
get a vasectomy
2007-02-21 16:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by spin free 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋