what do i need to do or say?
2007-02-21 16:16:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he can't love you the way you are nothing that you do can make you perfect to him. You can change everything about you but there will always be something else he feels is wrong. Not only that, if you even think of having to change to be perfect to him you are betraying yourself. Have faith and belief in you! as you are. If there are certain things that you do or don't which might be reasonable changes, fine. However, if those things that he feels make you less than perfect are things that make you who you are, double and triple think before you even consider to yourself that you are less than everything you need to be.
Somebody can reasonably be asked to change their behavior in a positive way but it should never be contingent on anything. The only one you need to accept you should be you. If your man has a problem with you then marriage counseling is more in the line of what you need.
Okay, maybe you are asking this question because you just want to know what you can do to make yourself a better person for yourself and your man. Only you can really answer that. If you want to be more for him, simply ask him what you can do! Asking for perfection, though, is beyond the limits of human possibility, especially since it is relative. Perfection to one may be irrelevent to another. Nothing will ever be enough.
Remember just this one thing. You can make changes for your man but only do it if you want to, never because you need or have to!
With that said, your man should always respect you. Your man should never hurt you. Take care of you! Always, listen to your gut and listen to your heart. They'll never fail you and always lead you where to go.
2007-02-21 16:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Pantera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply talk to them. Most guys are pigs though
and hard to get through to.
2007-02-22 00:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by redman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just submit unto him....I don't mean be a doormat ya know.
Call Dr. Laura...she will tell you about the amazing power you have over men, try it, you'll like it!
2007-02-22 00:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by zeepogee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be as pretty as you can be. pretty does not necessarily mean full of make up. just be clean and orderly, sweet smelling, be polite, be yourself. if you feel yourself not good enough, try your best to be better. in the end your man should accept you as who you are. the best thing is you've tried your best not just to please him but also to be the best of who you are.
2007-02-22 00:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by rac092062 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no perfect, just up to someones expectations.
know what he wants, what he likes, what he enjoys and do those things! just don't change yourself.
2007-02-22 00:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. There is nothing you can do or say to make someone feel that way. Either they feel it or they don't.
2007-02-22 00:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋