There is this guy in my class. We weren't very close at the begining. Since I started to score high on most subjects, he started to approach me. I thought that he was just trying to take advantage of me, well... he always asked me to be his partner on every single asignment. So whenever I got good mark, so did he. Now, he always sits next to me and follows me wherever I go. It was allright, but now I get confused. He starts on doing some unnecessary things for me like: carrying my bag, driving me everywhere, and he even attends my classes eventhough he doesn't take it.
I'm gay, and eventhough I've never said it, every1 in class already know it. So does he. He looks straight. I never had any impression of him being gay. I even know a girl who really like him.
Now that he's always around me, i'm pretty sure that ppl are starting to say that we're a couple. But i didn't see any hesitation from him being close to me. But he never said anything that he was interested in me either. He asked me couple of times to go to the movie before, but I always said that I had something to do. One thing that made me think that he is a real gay was that I noticed him copying one of my picture that I post on a site. I was shirtless on that picture.
Now, after being around him for some time, I think I start to have a feeling for him. I do want to have a realtionship with him. But I can't say it unless I have a real proof that he is attracted to me. Is he look gay to you? How should I do to know that he really is attracted to me WITHOUT asking him directly?
The worst thing is I accidentaly read one of my girl-friend's confession that she had a feeling for him too. She asked me to keep it a secret. So, what should I do?
2007-02-21 16:02:35 · 12 answers · asked by truealliance 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well i think he likes u. he did ask u for a movie right. now u know better then anyone that was it a favor for helping or he wants to spend time with u. i think u should give me a chance. some guys r shy and he might be affraid of loosing u. again u know how he deal with u. take him out and see what he has to say. to what u wrote i think he is a gd person. again u know he is trying to be good, or he is nice for real. either way u will know. give it a shot and see what happen. u will win either way in the end. gd luck.
2007-02-21 17:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything is too complicated. Talk to him alone and tell him that people are starting to suspect you and he are "an item." See how he responds to that, and be sympathetic.
If he seems to like the idea of being a couple, ask him straight up if he's gay. If he seems disgusted by the idea, drop the subject, and remind him you're only trying to warn him (as a friend) against vicious rumors.
As for your female friends: If you don't have strong feelings for the boy, don't date him. It might sever your relationship with your female friends. If you need these friends for social reasons or whatnot, you might not want to sever those ties. It sounds mean and cold to think in this way, but approaching this problem practically will prevent hurt feelings in the future.
2007-02-21 16:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by roxusan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me. In my case i was interested in him. I approached him and he said 'No'. But we still remain friends.
I your case he copies your photos. This seems to be confusing. The best way to ask him is when you are alone.
As h him if he is interested in Girls. he will says 'yes'. Then immediately ask him how about guys? If he gets angry then you say " I was kidding". If he feels shy or says 'yes' then he is a gay and he is admiring you.
2007-02-21 16:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by newsundersky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds gay to me. This is what u can do:get him alone and ask him what he thinks of gays then if he gives u a positive answer then say hey u know what im gay then just wait and see if he makes a move or just invite him to a movie and on the way ask him what he thinks of gays and then if he gives u a postive answer then say hey u know what im gay then wait to see if he makes a move on u at the movie.
iam a girl and i hope i helped u
2007-02-21 16:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true, and everyone knows that you are gay, it SHOULD be easier for you to approach HIM and discuss it with him. He is the one who would know how to answer that question. But from what you said, yes, he seems like he would be gay.
2007-02-21 16:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tikhacoffee/MisterMoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might be, only one way to tell, get him alone, maybe for homework or something? and become all clingy and close... see what he does.
if that doesnt work the hand on the knee will always tell you pretty quick.
if he is gay, your friend will understand, she wont have a chance in hell then anyway.
2007-02-21 16:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by mrzwink 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do anything...just let it take its course, you will know one way or another eventually. You might want to ask him if he knows you are gay? If he does, ask him if it worries him to be seen with you...that is a great lead in.....
2007-02-21 16:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you look straight?
Ask him if he's gay, not a bunch of strangers on an Internet site.
2007-02-21 16:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by baby BELLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to ask him - just accept an offer to go to the movies and you will know by his body language etc.
2007-02-21 16:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds gay to me, but ask him to go to the movies and if he makes a move...well there you go.
2007-02-21 16:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by The Con 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋