Once im in a relationship for more than 6 months, we start having power struggles..and it seems like they get so angry, and we fight constantly...i have heard this is a stage in love...but i always end up ending it. except this time, im kind of not totally leaving it....is this normal for love?
2007-02-21 16:02:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes it is normal for couples to verbally fight about things. I would be worried in any relationship with there was not some of this going on! I mean not fighting so bad that somebody is getting hurt (emotionally) but fighting about stupid little things, unimportant things like putting the seat down on the toilet or who is going to wash the dishes today! That kind of stuff!
I think a big problem especially in the gay community is that people find it way to easy to walk away form a relationship at the slightest little problem instead of giving it time and trying to work things out!
Hope this is helpful.
*hugs*
JAC<
2007-02-21 18:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by jackaboo007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's normal for love, but it does tell me that you both could use some help with conflict resolution. It takes two to fight, so learn how to fight fair. Fighting constantly is not normal in a love relationship, occasionally yes, but not constantly.
You're not totally leaving, what does that mean? It sounds like you've got a control issue with this relationship.
Take a stand with this relationship and stay. See if you can talk this issue out with your partner. Could just be a bump in the road, but leaving won't help you if this happens at the 6 month point. It'll just happen again in your next relationship at the 6 month time.
2007-02-21 16:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the power struggles were just cover ups for how u really felt. maybe u didnt feel like that person was the one u wanted to be w/cuz u got to see the real person. and if ur not leaving this time maybe its love. if u love some 1 u will stick w/them thru thick and thin. my husband and i fight alot sometimes, we've been together for 6 years and even tho we have really big fights and threaten to leave and kick each other out we've stuck thru it. this is either love w/us or we just dont want our first marriage to be a failure and want to plz God. dont no but we're still together. lmao. but back to u, this might be love and thats why ur stickin w/it. if u love her then u will get thru many hard times together. just take it slow and make sure. good luck.
2007-02-21 16:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by emilybailey1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being in love is the most involved interpersonal relationship you can engage in. Of course there are going to be power struggles. All that matters is that both of you stay safe, that nothing gets out of hand, and that both of you learn to concede on issues. Comprimise
2007-02-21 17:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Chipper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋