Recently, I've had friends come over to my house to have a party, it being winter recess and all. I only invited my closest of friends and most of my other friends understand that.
But there's this one guy, who doesn't take the hint. He's asking everyone that was at the party why he wasn't invited and nobody can give him a straightforward answer. The truth is, we aren't too fond of this guy, and we'd like him to chill and lay off a bit. He calls my friends a lot, and they complain to me that they don't like it.
I could deal with this in the beginning, but now it's just escalating and it's really aggravating me.
Please help!
How can I explain to him that my friends and I aren't very fond of him? The main problem here, is that he thinks we're his closest friends.
Help me please!
2007-02-21 15:55:15 · 10 answers · asked by Jasper H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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It is impossible to "put someone down" "nicely". This situation is bound to break his heart. If I were in your group I would be the one that "adopts" this fellow and simply refuses to exclude him from MY functions. Ok if you don't invite him to yours, but you'd better just deal with the fact that he was coming to mine. Friendship is a rare and wonderful gift, and even if you don't have a load in common with this guy, or even if he is not fitting with you and your buddies, that doesn't alter the fact that this man is a human being and his friendship and affections are very valuable. If someone is that determined to be my friend I refuse to look that gift horse in the mouth! I'd throw him a party and invite the gang!
2007-02-21 16:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by ladylovestolive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee, that is hard.
Perhaps say that you don't think you and your friends have much in common with him.
If he is really hurt and is a clingy kinda person, is it really going to hurt anyone if he tags along to parties and things?
I would rather him be there, than have to be an ahole and tell him that you and your friends don't like him.......... bit mean.
If you invite him to the bigger gatherings he might find some friends of his own.
2007-02-21 16:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is hard - especially if he isn't getting the hint. But better to be honest than keeping up a lie. You should just tell him that you don't feel you have the same interests and you perfer hanging out with other people who have interests similar to your own.
2007-02-21 16:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by shake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you can ever let anybody down gentley. But you are going to have to be straight forward and tell him face to face and dont be smug about it.
I dont think it is very nice of you and your friends to think you are to good for him. Karma remember karma.
2007-02-21 16:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by StevieMo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is part of growing up.
You either just tell him or you deal with it.
Talk with your friends and ask for ideas of how to deal with it.
Maybe you can ask your friends to just be nice, this guy needs firends.
2007-02-21 16:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't just tel him straight up you don't care for him and he needs to find a different group to hang with, f you lead him on you hurt him more let him know now so he can get on with his life unstead of you wasting his time in life.
2007-02-21 16:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Right 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As you grow up you will realize that it is best to just be upfront with people.
Say. Hey, you aren't invited. Bye. And shut the door.
2007-02-21 16:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by cuttiestrawberypie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why you gotta be mean to people or feel like you are leaving them out?
if you have 5 really close friends, invite their really close friends too. i mean sine your close friends are close with them, you should get along with everyone and make more friends..
2007-02-21 16:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by John Becker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you just get the message across very politely, but stern, and with a smile. If he still doesnt get it, then just dont worry about being nice.
2007-02-21 16:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by bolinger81380 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋