Compulsive liar?

Question

When dealing with a compulsive liar, how do you make them realize just how much anger, frustration, and pain their lies are causing?

When someone is a compulsive liar, is it likely that they are a cheater too?

Answer 1

the problem is with a compulsive liar is that they actually believe in their own lies.. they are so use to lying that their view of reality is clouded, with all their lies ... So to try and get them to realize anything is extremely hard to do.. its like if u look at a red rose, and u see just that a red rose, and someone comes up to u and says thats not red thats yellow, u'd argue till u were blue in the face that it was red cause thats what u see.. same with them, their "version" of the truth, they actually believe, and to try and convience them of anything else would be just a waste of energy..

With a compulsive liar, i would say they would hold the same characteristics of a cheater..

Answer 2

No, a compulsive liar is not automatically a cheater too. Unless of course they've cheated and lied about it...then add cheater to the list. I've learned that compulsive liars lie because they honestly believe their lives are nothing exciting to talk about...which usually means they have really low self esteems. I know it causes anger, frustration and pain, but making that person realize the actions of their lies, only encourages them to lie more so that they spare the feelings of those around them. I know it sounds odd, but it's true. Think about it, would you rather tell your loved one that they look like crap...or look for something nice to say? Even if you have to make it up. Most liars start off with those little lies to spare feelings, then it just becomes habit. If you want to break the habit, focus on the honesty...even if it's the most mundane of a detail. The more interest you show in what truth that person actually tells, the more likely that person will be to share the truth. And here is another point to ponder. Picture yourself as a child who just got into trouble. we've all been there and we've all lied to spare the consequence of a stupid action. If this person knows that you are going to be mad about something he/she has done...you are going to get a lie. If you react differently, you might start getting some truth.

I wish you a ton of patience honey, you are going to need it.

Answer 3

Try writing down some of the things he/she tells you. If you can buy a tape recorder so they know that they said the lie. A cheater is usually a liar. Some are bold enough to tell all parties involved of their actions. If you have signs that this person is telling lies that stem around cheating. It's way more likely they are cheating. It's very hard to deal with a liar. Most people are better off cutting them out of their lives.

Answer 4

I was married to one of those men. Life is not fun with dealing with a compulsive liar. You will never know what to believe. The only thing you can do is suggest he gets help and that if he doesn't you are going to file for divorce. My ex husband lied to me about everything and he ended up cheating on me and left me for another women. I am not saying that is what is going to happen to you but you do not want to be stuck in a marriage where your husband is a liar.

Answer 5

A liar can't see the pain they are causing b/c they are sick. Until their lies hurts them bad enough that they can finally see they are sick and need help and get it on their own, they won't change.
And yes, a compulsive liar can be a cheater.

Answer 6

Compulsive liars don't really think that they are lying, but they are. They lie so much that it becomes a habit to them, and that they sometimes believe their own lies. They will only realize that they are hurting others is when the other person either comfronts them, or leaves. Usually when they lie like that, nothing turns out right for them, they start to have problems with relationships, friends, financial problems, and even with themselves.

It usually means that they could use some counseling.

Answer 7

Real compulsive liars do not always lie. A person who lies 100% of the time is a fiction. However, if you're talking about the fictional 100% liar, the answer to the question "Are you a liar?" is "no." Which is the same answer you'd get from a "truth teller."

Answer 8

The sad truth is compulsive liars some times believe there own lies. It is a sickness. It does not necessarily mean he/she is a cheat but it can happen. If it is a spouse or significant other get counseling immediately. They need to know why they are lying. If it is a friend back off you don't need that in your life.

Answer 9

He is not, never going to get it. The older they get, I guess at one point they actually believe what they are saying themselves...trust me, I was married to one for 19 years and finally (I'm a bit stubborn) got out!
After already being apart for almost 2 years now, his ways still have not changed. He is still lying, even to his kids now (well, he used to do that before...I mean, he's got no reason, he is still lying)...and about the cheating thing...all the years, I had told myself (when I was still trying and trying again), if he'd do that, I surely would be gone, that would have been the last string! After we broke up, I had asked one of his former friends who told me, 'do you want details, or how about just wondering...someone who lies about EVERYTHING else, why would he stop there?'
A few months later, I also found out he has an illegitimate child (should be about 5 now), so...I am not telling you what to do, just telling my experience, I know everyone is different, and you will have to make decisions YOU are comfortable with. I guess that's why I stayed so long...for yourself, you need to know that you have given it your all, tried every way, and then you can peacefully hold your head up high and know you've done the right thing!!!
Good luck!

Answer 10

Many liars are sociopaths. They have the ability to change their own reality. It is almost impossible to deal with them and they will not understand the affects they have on other people.
The manilupate with words.

Cheaters? Well, if they lie, then they can cheat or lie about cheating.

Don't tie yourself to a person like this.