Why would your husband trip about a male friend that is just a friend?

Question

His friends that are always trying to get with me, he never trips about but a guy that I can talk to about anything, he trips....why?

Answer 1

Because he knows that this guy is trying to get with you. We know that all straight guys, have one thing in mind. Now, you may not think the same about this other guy, but I guarantee that he wants to nail you. He just has a different style than your used to. Your boyfriend knows this and is trying to stop it before you fall for it. As far as his friends are concerned, he knows that they are trying to nail you also, but he has enough confidence in them that they would not follow through due to his friendship and the unwritten code between male friends.

Answer 2

Well think of it this way. I bet you would feel threatened as well if he had a female friend. He knows how a male mind thinks. Most of the time (unless the man is gay) they want to get into your pants. I am not saying that two people from the opposite sex cannot be friends but your husband feels threatened and scared. If this guy has a girlfriend or is married you all should go out together.

Answer 3

It depends.

What sort of attention do you pay to his friends, as opposed to what sort of attention you pay to your "friend".

These feelings are your husbands and you should respect them. You, your friend, and your husband sit down and talk together. Try explaining it to your husband, and let him hear it from your friends mouth as well. That might help.

If it does not help at all, you may consider severing the friendship, or simply keeping it on an e-mail basis for the time being, until your husband grows more secure with the friendship.

You must remember, a friend is a friend forever, and if he is a true friend, he will be understanding of the fact that you took vows with your husband, and he will wait it out. Do not make the mistake of throwing away a marriage you were obviously very serious about on your wedding day for someone whom is not as important to you as "the most important man in your life."

Answer 4

There are a few answers to that complicated question. Since he's your husband, he may feel that there may be something missing in your relationship, that you would need the company of another man. He probably feels that since he is your husband, he's suppose to be your best friend too, besides being your partner, lover etc...
The second thing might be he might be insecure about himself or your relationship, that you need to find companionship outside your home.
He may also want to keep you all to himself, it's a man thing. If your married, than he may think you're all his.
Be careful, if you continue this outside friendship, it might change your relationship with your husband, and he could also find company of another woman. Put yourself in his place. But if the two of you agree on having friends of the opposite sex, it has to be agreed upon with the two of you, not just one sided.
Good luck...by the way, my husband would be the same way, that's why I don't have any male friends, even if I had the time.

Answer 5

well u have to ask yourself these questions..

1. does he "know" the man that u've be friended.. his character, personality etc.. people always fear the unknown.. , he knows his friends, what type of people they are, if they are harmless.. or if its something to worry about.. this guy id guess he only knows of him but that u dont really attempt to prove to him that he has nothing to worry about by doing meetings with u as a couple with ur male friend..

2. If ur talking to your male friend about personal or intimate issues.. then he has every right to be worried, there is no reason for a married woman to turn to any man about personal feelings or intimate issues dealing with her marriage..

3. Do u go out to lunch with this friend alone, have u ever been caught alone with this friend, or could be caught alone with this friend and although U know theres nothing to be worried about could it ever be misconstrude by other looking from the outside in, that there could be more?

And i have to ask, if u husband had a "girl friend" that talked the same way with ur husband, had his undivided attention, that he probably stood up for in arguments when u expressed ur dislike for her..etc.. hung out with him, and u could just read her like a handbook cause your a girl urself and u know how to read other women and u dont have a good feeling about her, would u "PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE" by putting up a fuss, or would u throw ur hands in the air and say whatever and risk an affair happening?

Your putting ur friend infront of ur husband and that is wrong.. and YOUR causing him to be jealous even if your not intentionally trying to do so..

Answer 6

There is no such thing as "just a friend" in opposite sexes. Especially someone with whom you have a connection. Your husband is right to "trip" you should be talking about "anything" with your husband not with your "just friend". I speak from experience my husband of 22 years just left me for someone he has been "talking" to for 7 months on the Internet who was an old gf. Just friends and just talking is a recipe for disaster in your current relationship.

Answer 7

It's the man code. He knows his buddies, he knows that although they pursue, they are never going to get "his" prize. This other guy....different story. This guy is your confidant. This guy hears all your dramas from your point of view. Men don't like to be talked about unless they are being talked up. Being that you treat this other guy as such a close friend, your husband is threatened by it. He doesn't know what you tell this other guy and he definately doesn't get to tell this guy his side of the story like he can with his buddies....so to him, it's a man he does not know, sharing intimate details of your life with. Either introduce them, have this guy hang around the TWO of you, or get a girlfriend honey, because this will lead to a disaster.

Answer 8

It took me a minute to understand your question, but basically, he trusts his friends. They are probably just playfully flirting (although I think it's inappropriate). With a friend of yours, he doesn't know his intentions. Not to mention the fact that this guy is providing you emotional support that your husband should be providing you. He is jealous and threatened. Try talking to your husband about things that bother you rather than your friend.

Answer 9

Because emotional intimacy is the first step to physical intimacy. Your husband wants to be the guy that you turn to to fill your emotional needs... and he should be. Make sure that he really feels he is the most important man in your life (he probably woshes he was the only one). If you are really good at doing this, maybe he will start to be OK with your guy friends. If not, you have to decide which is more important - your husband or your friends. I hope you choose your husband.

Answer 10

Well-
Probably because your his wife and he loves you a lot and he cant see you with anyone else but him and never wants you to be with anyone else you when your friendly with a guy he gets nervous cause he loves you and doesn't want anything to happen to your relationship with him.

Hes just worrying.

Another thing is if your spending alot of time with your friend then i would be worried to if i was your husband. maybe you should spend more time with your husband and tell your friend when he asks you to do something with him that you have plans with your husband. Just cut off a little bit on the spending time with that friend.