I don't think I could have children with my boyfriend because we disagree on too many things. We love each other and want to get married. Right now I'm 25 and could do with or without children. Thoughts on this?
2007-02-21 15:26:33 · 14 answers · asked by shell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It really depends on your desire to have children. And, at 25 it is hard to know how you will feel 5 or 10 years from now. Why not just live together and see how it grows? If you eventually decide you want kids passionately, then there is not a needless divorce. Just make sure you look out for your financial wellbeing for the future.
2007-02-21 15:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY NOT!!!
Are both of you sure of your love for each other since you're only 25? How long have both of you been together? On what matters or issues are both of you disagree on...money, friends, opinions?
It's too early to decide whether you do or do not want children at this tender age. After your marriage, both your ideas of a married life may change and you may want to assume motherhood or fatherhood when you're in your mid 30's. Then what??
Depending on what issues both of you disagree, some could be just minor and compromise while others like money could lead to future divorce. So get paper and pencil and write them on paper; tabulate them according to serious or minor; can or cannot be resolved at this stage; think about it and upon reflection, you could then perhaps come up with an answer to you question.
2007-02-21 23:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by walker stumbler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have children in a marriage if you don't want them....but I'd have a problem being married to a man that had so many problems with I couldn't bring a child into the relationship if I wanted one.
You should think long and hard about this guy.
2007-02-21 23:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you disagree on too many things you shouldn't get married at all. If there is one doubt in your mind then don't get married. If you don't want children then I don't see a problem but you have to look ahead and ask yourself if you'll ever change your mind.
2007-02-21 23:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you disagree on too many things, like you say...then you shouldn't get married and are you sure you really love each other ?
2007-02-21 23:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by BRAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the fact that you might want to have childrn in the future. And it might be a problem. However, if you're okay with being with him forever, just the two of you, and you're quite sure that you won't change, then there you go. Also, if divorce is an option for you.
2007-02-21 23:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Scarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you disagree on too many things to raise children together, you probably won't be able to sustain a happy marriage together either.
2007-02-21 23:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by baby_savvy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you disagree on too many things you should not marry him.
2007-02-22 05:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the issues you need to decide on BEFORE you get married.
2007-02-21 23:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by momof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u love him then it shouldnt eally matter but if that of haviing chldren is gonna get on the way beteern u two then it aint gonna work out n its notgonna be worth gettin married
2007-02-21 23:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by gina r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋