Me and my Husband fight a lot over sex. He wants it all the time I don't after haveing kids I just feel sexy anymore cause I have gained weight plus it doesn't feel the sameis there something wrong with me?
2007-02-21 15:26:17 · 8 answers · asked by crbearmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"I don't feel sexy because i gained weight"
Well, get off yahoo answers, serch for a weight loss program and stick to it. There is nothing more frustrating than a woman who says "I've gained so much weight because of my kids.." So? Unless you STILL postpartum (i seriously doubt that, no man would houdn his wife for sex during her recovery) I suggest you get up, and start working out. It can be as simple as cutting out sodas, candy, chips, juice (unless freshly squeezed) and eat healthy foods. You can walk a mile every day, sneak in some crunches before you go to work, try some of those nifty diet pills they have on the market or play more with your kids. Even if you work, you can still lose weight. I have a 6 month old, and I am back into a size 3, from a c-section, so there is no excuse.
"He wants it all the time"
Well, HELLO..that means you still turn him on, and that he still loves you, stretch marks n' all. Why in gods name would we turn down a man who thinks we are sexy and wants to do something "dirty" with us. Just give into your "sex crazed husband" and he will worship you.
"It doesn't feel the same"
Of course it won't, you've had babies. Thats one downside to having kids. You do lose a little down there, BUT BUT BUT..
You can fix that! (see how much we can do to fix ourselfs instead of blaming our beloved hubby???)
Kegals..squeeeeeeeze them muslces back to pre baby tightness. It works. If you do it often enough, even all the feelings will come back. If not, use toys (think they are dirty? then, cant help ya)
If you want to change, you are going to have to do it yourself, get over the "i feel sorry for myself" stage and go and make the needed changes..it aint gonna be easy..but hey, thats life.
Good luck!
2007-02-21 18:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Pandora 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I was in a similar situation after having my daughter, don't worry to much about your weight, the baby weight issue will never end even if you lose the lbs. What you can do to feel better about urself is, get a baby-sitter or someone to watch the kids, and every week get a pedicure/manicure, do your hair, go to a gym, go out with girl-friends, this will bring your self esteem back to reality, and you will feel much better with your husband, if he wants you that's great, what's better when a man doesn't care about your minuses. About not feeling good during sex, definitely see your gyno he can give you a week of treatment which will defiantly help your hormones go back on track.
And a little get away trip to hotel with candles, rose, Champaign wouldn't hurt neither :o) good luck
2007-02-21 16:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO...its normal to feel this way. You have so much on your plate and are probably overwhelm and stressed out. Have him prepare a bath for you and a relaxing night with candles and music in your bedroom so you two can relax together after a long day. Kissing and heavy petting aloud as long as you are not being pressure into doing something you don't want to do. Talk to him, express your self and what you want from him.
2007-02-21 15:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. there is nothing wrong with you, i am in the same situation. have three children and don't feel sexy because of extra weight now. you just need to try to take some time to yourself once in a while. It will come back, you just have to give it time.
2007-02-21 16:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See your doctor. If you had a good sex drive before children it could be a simple hormone imbalance. If you took any meds for post natal depression, it can have a bad reaction on your sex drive. Do not let people lay the blame on you or your hubby as being emotional and non supportive. Hormones drive everything in your body. Please see your doctor.
2007-02-21 15:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him watch child, Let him cook for you, Let him clean up rooms for you, Let him do something make you feel very comfortable. Relax and not to hard work at home, your body got tired after gave birth a child, it's normal, your body need rest.
You will be horny again after. LOL
2007-02-21 15:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by foxxmay2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, nothing wrong with you. this is happen to mostly all women after having kids. however, u r his wife , who's else will satisfy him if it wasn't you. i know you are tired, so give him ********, or some quick sex just to calm him down.
2007-02-21 15:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to or he'll stray
2007-02-24 13:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋