how do you deal with a friendship that was so dear to you getting broken? You loved and cherished this person yet you can never see them. I had a dear friend and we just quit being friends.her decision to God was to never talk to me (she is a girl and i am one too) how can i get my heart healed? i missed her but i know i cant get her back.Please help.
2007-02-21 15:24:15 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well, if she stands her ground on not wanting to talk to you anymore, you should respect her, but you should also let her know that...email her...send her a letter...or call her and leave her a voicemail message, and let her know how you feel right now...as in you miss her, and she is important to you, and tell her that you never want to loose her as a friend, but if she really wants to just end the friendship, than let her know that you respect her decision, but make it clear that she will always be important to you, just basically how to feel about this person, and how she is important to you, and then you need to slowly move on. Try to go to social events, meet new people, go to the parties, go dancing, to get your mind off of things, and also to meet new people. The trick is don't let yourself think that you can't move on, convince yourself that it will be over soon, and a couple months from now you will be totally fine. Your mind has to first believe so, for it to really happen. You have to let it heal, for it to be okay.
good luck hun.
Saphire
2007-02-21 15:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Saphire04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Losing a gd friendship is like losing a chunk of u inside. It is not easy to get by easily but still it is possible.
I used to hv a gd fren, very gd fren (me is a guy fren) that we use to hang out together, share all problems together and even discuss our very own personal life together. We hv been together for almost 7 yrs since I was a kid. Then 1 day, he did betray me and make very miserable. He cheated me a best fren for just $50! I was so depress that I went drinking til I drunk.
After that, I was so tempted to get back to him and forget abt everything but somehow something inside me just say it ain't right, and I follow my heart.
Seems a pretty difficult thing to do at first but surprisingly it didn't feel that tough. I try to live on with my everyday life and somewhere down the line i found another gd fren who is so much wonderful than he is.
See, when something needs to end, it doesn't always spell disaster. Instead when something needs to end, it is actually the start of a new begining. So relax, don't worry. I always say, if its yours ,it will be yours! Take care.
2007-02-21 18:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds Haley. When I was young I wondered what this meant. Now that I have gotten older, and have lost love ones through death or a friendship that didn't work out, I found out it is true. I had a very dear friend hurt me badly in September. Though we are talking, it isn't the same. I actually cried about it, and I am an adult. I only felt about one other friend in my entire life. As every day that passes, it doesn't hurt as much as it did.
Annie: I love reading your answers. You are one of my favorites.
2007-02-21 15:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some times people make decisions we dont at the time understand sometimes we offend people and they never give us the opportunity to explain to clear up a miss understanding and sometimes people use religion or changes in their life to abandon friends and other ties and sometimes it is not our fault it can leave you feeling hurt rejected misunderstood abandoned betrayed and alienated i am so sorry you are going though this hurt a good friend lost can hurt even more than a romantic tie there may be nothing you can do to get this friend back you can maybe feel better if you gave it one heart felt letter of why you appreciate her and how you would appreciate her not abandoning the friendship that is so dear to you Buddhists believe
how ever that some times people traveling on a path together have to separate in order to accomplish a different means maybe your Carma together ran out and you need to journey with a different friend as does she to go where you need to in this life
it hurts you are not alone in this experience maybe you needed to feel this awful pain so that in this life you do not needlessly have to inflict this on another or maybe you will have to make this difficult decision to another and can be more compassionate in the execution that your friend did to you may God bless you richly with many soles that make you feel loved treasured and safe
2007-02-21 15:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by dancfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When this has happened in my life, two things help:
1. Realize that only family is forever, but all friends are only for a season. Your season with her has passed. Take away the good and leave behind the bad. You will find another good friend later.
2. Volunteer. There is nothing like helping others to make you realize that things aren't as bad as they seem. Find a cause you're passionate about and volunteer - it will make you feel good.
Good luck.
2007-02-21 15:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sidewinder 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"NowWay" said it best.....time is all that is needed for all wounds (emotional as well as physical). Think of that nasty fall you had as a child. You ran to your mom "crying hysterically". It hurt so bad you were scared to look down at it.......probably thought you lost a leg.(smile) Two weeks pass.........it still hurt but you were a trooper............more time passed, new skin developed and all is good. Nowadays, I bet you cant find the spot where you had that fall. The only wounds that do not heal properly are those that are "picked" and "scratched" on. Leave... Let... Live... Leave it alone....Let it heal.... and LIVE your life.
2007-02-21 16:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by Your2ndGradeTeacher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. And whatever I do it makes me think of her and it breaks my heart. Abby and I have parted ways. The friend ship has sailed. Everyday in the morning I wake up and yell "Today is a new day I will find a new friend. I'm moving on!" And it really does sometimes give me confidence
2007-02-21 15:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When any kind of relationship ends there's a reason and usually it's because the relationship wasn't good for either or both people.
You'll always have a place in your heart for her but a heart has a place for a lot of people.....go find another friend.
2007-02-21 15:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do more stuffs...that involves some concentration..that way you will start forgetting things that are just in your memory...or may be in photos...Just keep doing some kind of activities..and never just sit alone and think of her..you know...you can...start singing songs..while relazxed.. if you are good singer than..you can also try American IDOl...Good luck sweety..and I hope to see you on tv...
2007-02-21 15:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step is to grieve and be broken..... the second is to accept you have NO control over anyone but urself...... the third is to give urself permission to move on and be happy..... the fourth is to give it all you have...... the fifth is to say, * ok, I am here and I am me, I like it here and I love ME !!*...... God bless
2007-02-21 15:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋