I am 26 with a two year old son. My husband has been to rehab four times in our relationship and pretty much ignores me and my son. Although, he is now been sober for a year and a half he still never really seems to get his act together. He is 37 and acts totally irresponsible. He recently took a job where he travels all but three or four days out of the month. I want to go back to school and have a career but my husband is not supportive. My father however who just retired wants me and my son to move in and for me to go back to school. He is financially in good shape and says I am wasting my life with someone who only seems to be in the relationship for themselves. I feel like my husband is no help and could careless about my future or my son's future. Should I move home with my dad? I feel guility that things are not working out but feel the longer I wait the worse things will be.
2007-02-21 15:10:38 · 6 answers · asked by Lily 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take your dads advice you need to start putting you and your son before what your husband feels. Right now he is only thinking of himself he is not ready to be a FATHER nor a Husband you need to get yourself on your feet so that you can take care of you and your son. You do that now while you do have a loving family who is willing to help you take good advantage of that opportunity cause you never know what will happen down the line and waiting on your husband to get his self straight you are still crippling yourself and your son waiting on him no way take care of you and your son let your husband do what he wants he is no help to you or your son. We very seldom get these types of opportunities in life so while you have that chance to go back to school girl go for it handle up on your business and leave him wherever he is you don't need him to support you or your son you can do it there are a lot of single parents out here in this world today so I know if they all made it some still maybe wishing they had the opportunity that you have you can make it too!!
2007-02-21 15:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to move and get a divorce because your husband is irresponsible and he doesn't support you? Why can't you both work this out rather then running to your dad for help? Didn't you know about your husband way before you married him? Don't run away from your problems with your husband, don't take the easy way out, fix the problems!
You are an adult now and married with a son, stop depending on your dad to rescue you. You are suppose to support your husband and help him, not neglect him. Stop putting him down for the job he chose. You are just thinking about yourself and not him or your son. You had a son because you wanted a family, but now you want a career to meet your own needs? What kind of wife are you and what kind of mommy are you? Your family is with your husband and son, not your dad anymore.
Your husband has been sober for 1 year, and you haven't given him any support. All because you just care for yourself and your needs.
I would consider in getting, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage". I think you two need to start acting like adults and a husband and wife. You are acting like you want to be single again. Sorry.
2007-02-21 15:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes! If your husband feels that your needs are secondary to his, then you need to do something for your child. Don't pay any attention to that one that calls herself cfoster001. Criticizing your ability to parent is a below the belt blow and she sounds like one of those freaks that think that women are lesser than men. Advance in your career. Keep your son and his father in each other's life, but clearly your (and your husband's) priorities are different.
2007-02-21 17:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usualy don't promote divorce, but if you feel in your heart that this is the best descion for you and your son then you should do it. I recoment doing so before your son gets any older. The younger he is the easier the transition will be for him. Best wishes.
2007-02-21 15:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one. Sounds like things are not going to change with your husband?
So you gotta make the call. Nothing wrong with living with your dad sounds like you both could use the companionship.
you just need to deside if you want to be with your husband anymore thats the big question....Lets
2007-02-21 15:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by letsget_dangerous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ys you should because you need to be where someone has you and your son's best interest at heart. You have no reason to feel guilty because at least you stayed that long. People dont change unless they have a sincere heart to do so.
2007-02-21 15:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by shay80800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋