he is getting divorced and so am i we have been seeing eachother almost a year we are very compatiable , respectful, loving ect. I know he still loves his wife but knows it wont work but they have three kids , I still love my husband but know it wont work . Will the guilt or doubt carry into our relationship? How do i know he really loves me or i really love him im sure we do we talk about things of this nature very honestly? he also thinks once i am around his kids that one day i will leave! its a little crazy! any advice?
2007-02-21 14:56:46 · 8 answers · asked by liz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So you both got the divorce to be together? I don't think it will work because once he starts going to visit his children, if he still loves his wife, he will be with her! I can promise you that! And since he has children with her, if you try to stop him from seeing his children, he will tell you that his children need him... It is like and old soap opera, but I bet you this is exactly what is going to happen...
2007-02-21 15:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by eli_davila2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you I think you should be on your own for while. No relationship for a year. You don't know what you want right now, because there are so many strings tugging at you. This "time out" will straighten and clear your head and be a good investment in avoiding future head-aches. Start afresh after your sabbatical from relationships and be happy.
2007-02-21 23:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved with him if he has 3 kids to raise. Let him raise his kids, because they are his number one priority, not you. He needs to be there for his kids because they have been through so much drama, they have feelings too.
So, you may not want to get involved with him, because if you do, his ex-wife will still be in the picture. He shouldn't be dating either until he has raised his kids and until they are old enough to be on their own. That is the right thing to do for him, let him raise his kids. NO more drama in their lives.
2007-02-21 23:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheat always a cheat.
in the end you will never really trust each other. your children will probably not like this arrangement very well.
the chances of a successful, long lasting relationship is slim to none.
2007-02-21 23:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the kind of person who cheats on his wife (with you) how do you know that he won't cheat on you when you are the wife? How can you trust him in a relationship when he has proven that he is willign to betray the trust of marriage?
By the same token, how can he trust you?
People who cheat on their sposes are very likely to do it again.
2007-02-21 23:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by baby_savvy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats with you; he will cheat on you. History has a way of repeating itself. Be careful. If you still love your husband; make it work with him. Get some counseling.
2007-02-21 23:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife, submit to YOUR OWN HUSBAND.
Now let not the wife depart from her husband, but if she depart, let her remain UNMARRIED.
For as long as the husband lives, the wife is bound by the law, but if her husband be dead, then she is free to marry. ----This is the word of the Lord....... consider and understand this for YOUR OWN GOOD.
2007-02-21 23:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it from a Old Fart who has seen a lot....this don't sound good. Not good at all.
2007-02-21 23:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋