Does marriage solve all problems? My little sister thinks it does, but I don't. She doesn't believe me so I'm asking those who are married, did marriage solve all your problems?
2007-02-21 14:56:36 · 12 answers · asked by Jedi Lizard 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she wants to get married to "solve" her problems, then all what she is going to find after getting marriage is MORE PROBLEMS! That's why there are so many divorces nowdays. Some people have this illusion that marriage is the magic word to solve the problems that they should solve BEFORE they get married.
2007-02-21 15:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by eli_davila2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if marriage was that easily, I would have hitched twenty years ago.
1. Marriage requires sacrifice.
2. Marriage requires work.
3. Marriage requires love for the other unconditionally.
4. Marriage needs both to work, love and need each other to survive.
5. Marriage is a commitment, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.
6. Marriage takes responsibility.
If marriage is "assumed" in any way, it will fall apart and create more problems that won't go away in a divorce, either.
2007-02-21 23:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by n9wff 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a lot of work. It neither solves nor creates problems. But if you are really willing to put in the effort to create a strong marriage, then all of the problems in the world are easier to deal with.
2007-02-21 23:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by baby_savvy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't solve anything. It sometimes can create many problems. I thought so when I was first married. I had problems before I was married and thought that getting married would solve all my problems. I was in for a big disappointment. We had alot of problems and nothing much was ever solved. We eventually got divorced after staying married for 25 years. I was miserable. I am now remarried and doing much better.
2007-02-21 23:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haaaa haaa haaa haaa haaa haaa! Are you serious with this question? Marriage doesn't solve any problems honey....well, unless you are a mail order bride living in poverty about to wed a well to do man who would idolize you...but this is the real world. Tell your sister to take all her problems and multiply them by two because her husband is bound to have his own fair share of baggage that he is going to bring into the relationship. If she is marrying to escape life, she's fooling herself. That would be like a game of hide and seek. The problems will disappear for a while, but eventually they will catch up with her. The only way she can make things better for herself is to change what she doesn't like in her life now. I know it sounds easy, and I'll be the first to admit it's not, but as we grow, we learn from our mistakes and if we don't go through the trials and tribulations of life and resolve our own issues, we'll never be able to, thus creating more problems.
Marriage is a union of two people who love each other and vow to live for each other. It's not meant to escape life. When I use to counsel people regarding marriage, there was a test I would always give to those unsure of their situation. I would tell them to close their eyes, take a deep breath and picture their ideal life...everything they've ever dreamed of coming true...then with their eyes closed, I'd tell them to tell me who was standing next to them through it all. You'd be surprised at the answers I got....more times than not, it wasn't their soon to be husbands. It's not an exact science, but it was enough to put doubt into their minds that would allow them to evaluate their situation a little better.
2007-02-21 23:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage won't solve problems it only magnifies them.
A good firend of mine was having trouble with her guy before they got married but once they got married...disaster.
He has turned into a complete controling prick.
It is the same deal with babies, never have one to try and fix a relationship.
2007-02-21 23:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by foodychick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not a problem solving device. It is, however, a very good shot at happiness. It is a very old yet popular institution. Love is essential to it. There can't be love without admiration. In turn, there can't be admiration without respect. So if your sister truly respects, admires and loves her boy friend, marriage might be her best shot at happiness.
2007-02-21 23:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Hueving 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Solve problems? Like WHAT? Beg, threaten or force them at gunpoint to a pre-marital counseling session. This will do more to 'solve problems' than any single thing you can do for your sister.
2007-02-21 23:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesnt. Marriage is a lot of work. New problems arise in marriage all the time.
2007-02-21 23:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage does not solve problems, as a matter-of-fact, it multiplies them geometrically.
2007-02-21 23:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋