What would be a good reason a guy would be in a relationship with a women who lied about a pregnancy, stole his cash, tries to control him and is the same age as his mother but says he does not know what love is, but he says he will always love me but lives with her and says he has feelings for her. They always argue over me and she hates me but I don't want him back b/c he cheated on me with her.
I read something another answerer said that cheating could be a "pain killer" and since I know this guy is an addict in recovery and out of prison, and has a strained relationship with his mom he does things to numb the pain.
I just don't have a clue.
2007-02-21 14:41:54 · 10 answers · asked by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is lying to you he loves her but have feelings for you and he is telling her the same thing. I am proud of you because you seem to be a very mature, smart and strong person. I think that you should keep this guy away from you as much as possible he is bad news.
Good luck in life and please stay away from guys like these as soon as they say they are in a relationship or seem to be in one stay away because all they could bring for you is heart ache.
A guy once told me when I was single that I wanted to be in this mess to complain and so it was. When I got over it I found my husband and I've never been happier so I suggest that you make yourself happy as well.
2007-02-21 14:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His feelings for her must be stronger then the ones he has for you or he would wanna be with only you. He sounds like a jerk really id move on if I where you there are way more guys out there then just him you could find a good guy. As for why somone would stay with someone they dont even love most the time its because they are scared to be alone are hate changes in there lifes. My friends husband just told her he has not been in love with her for one year now and wants a divorce but then calls her after two days of not being home and says its to hard for him by himself and he wants to come home now but she wont take him back thow. Some people are just funny in that way
2007-02-21 22:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by Amy D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He IS getting something out of this relationship. It sounds like he needs a strong 'mother influence' and is drawn to this woman for that reason. The ties between mother and child can be strong and if a child never had a mom or a good one, the draw can be tremendous. He needs counseling. I would suggest to look elsewhere for a good healthy partner. You will never win or be happy in this one. Good luck.
2007-02-21 22:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Nisey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie move on. It seems to me that this man isnt ever going to change for nothing. You deserve better than him. No one deserves a man that would cheat, lie, or do anything else to harm himself or someone else. His prison stint tells me that he probably into all of those things. Im not trying to be mean, but maybe this is a blessing from God to have him out of our life. Except the gift and make the most of it.
2007-02-21 22:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by crystalyn129 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm in such a similar situation its almost scary. His name isn't Jody by any chance is it, lol...
Anyway all I can say is what I'm doing. I talk to him online and one the phone, I let him tell me what he thinks I want to hear. B/c I've known this guy forever and he is my daughter fathers. I do care about it and all that. But I'm not putting my heart into or getting my hopes up about him moving back to the town I live in till I see it.
I know why he is, atleast in my case staying with her. She has her home, caters to him, cooks for him ect. Me I"m not nowhere near a homemaker, she was the one by his side while he was in jail.
I don't know I"m rambling
2007-02-21 23:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by his wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to "get a clue" and stay out of this guy's life.Sorry,but he sounds like trouble with a capital T.Strained relationship with his mom,lives with someone who's as old as his mom,recovering addict,ex-con.Sounds like he has more on his plate then he can deal with.Why would you want to get involved with a loser like that? Grow up and move on with your life.My daddy always said "guys are just like buses,one leaves,another arrives in 10 minutes"
2007-02-21 23:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by funfun32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waaaa? Why do you keep hurting your self....This is waaaaay to complicated. Do yourself a favor. Get somebody decent. I know that love is not logical, specially if you are in it. Your heart say stay, but your brain say leave. see what the other people have to say.
2007-02-21 22:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to get too close to her, and he doesn't want to get too close to you. So he keeps you both on a string.
Cut it.
2007-02-21 22:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C.T.K.H.
Cheaper To Keep Her
2007-02-21 23:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Are you serious or mentally challenged ?
2007-02-21 22:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋