She divorced me more than 5 years ago. She said she needed to find herself and eloped to Cancun with a new-found boyfriend, while I was struggling to get out of a heavy debt with my almost bunkrupt company. In the divorce settlement, she kept custody of our two girls and almost all the debt-free assets that we had, namley sub urban land, plus an over-generous alimony. When I was unable to pay such high alimony, she sued me and sent me to jail for a whole month, until I got out with a Constitutional resource. Two years later she says she has realized I am the love of her live and she wants me back, also beacuse - she says - my girls need me badly. In the meantime I have kept a close relationship to my children while dating other women. Unexpectedly, I had a baby-boy with my three-year girlfriend right after breaking up with her. She is mad at me and barely lets me see my son. My exwife is now the lovliest person I can imagine.
This is not a soap opera, but my true present life.
2007-02-21
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Honey, if you want honesty...go with your gut. You wouldn't be asking us this question if you had any doubts. The thing of this matter is that when times were tough, she bailed. She took what was left, your children and she ran away. Are you so foolish enough to think that she wouldn't do it again? The alimony payments should have stopped after she remarried her boy toy. Her suing you should not have happened. And on top of that, who does that to someone they claim to love? Is this something she just "discovered"? Or is there more to the story that has her running back to you? Maybe the boyfriend/husband thing isn't working out the way she thought it would....there's pieces to this puzzle that are missing....but even so, when it comes down to it...you have to ask yourself what's more important? Having someone in your life...or finding that happiness within yourself. I understand the need to see your children. even with the new baby...in time, the anger that mother feels towards you will fade. But children are not a reason to be in a relationship. If I were in your shoes, I'd be there for my children, but be very cautious about any type of relationship with their mom. Unless of course you like being screwed...and if that's the case...bring the vaseline hon, cuz...this one....you can't trust. I'm sorry if that's harsh, but deep down somewhere you already know this. I'm sorry your life is the way it is, but you have the power to change it.
I sincerely hope you find the happiness you are seeking, you sound as though you could really use it. You've been through enough, there's no need to do it all over again...you are better than that, and you deserve better.
2007-02-21 14:57:07
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answered by Hollynfaith 6
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2016-12-19 23:16:34
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answered by Anonymous
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If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.
2015-01-30 21:22:18
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answered by Latashia 1
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If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.
2015-01-28 11:52:34
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answered by Anonymous
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Did her new husband leave her? They call them ex's for a reason.Continue having a good relationship with your kid's and try to come to some sort of a solution with your girlfriend about seeing your son.Ditch the wife and get on with your life.Any one that sues you and makes you go to jail is no sweetheart.Heartless is more like it.
2007-02-21 14:51:04
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answered by funfun32 2
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2016-02-06 14:10:27
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answered by Clara 3
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Gees.....if u get back with this wicked woman, make it under these regulations.....
That if it fails, then no alimony will be paid and
That all assetts will remain as they are today.
I think i would be a little leary about all she has done. I know u cant help who u love, but i think it would be in your best interest to protect yourself since u r finally getting your financial situation under control.
By the way u sound, u have already made the decision to give it another shot. There is nothing wrong with that, but u have got to protect yourself. U cant suffer another financial blow, if she decides to run off again. Just be careful..
If u love her, try again. Just do what i said.
Good luck.
2007-02-21 14:46:30
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answered by Truth Teller 5
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2015-04-28 04:47:35
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answered by Rosalie 1
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2016-02-11 12:46:20
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answered by Anonymous
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Create mystery - there is nothing more effective than creating a mysterious aura about you to get your ex back. Remember that mystery will add to your appeal. If your ex sees that there is something different about you, they will immediately want to find out what caused it. And since you are not talking to them, they will go out of their way to reach out to you.
Pique their curiosity - curiosity is one compelling human trait. If something or someone sparks curiosity in you, you are more likely to find out what it is. You need to make your ex curious to get him or her to want to talk to you. Make your ex curious with something new in your life; it maybe a new gadget, car, or even job. Just make sure that it is something that interests them. There's no point in making them curious about something they don't care about.
Tap their interests - as you can see, all three points are interrelated. You know what they like so this gives you the power to make them come to you. Do something to make them know that you have front row tickets to the NBA or a concert. You can also show off your latest iPod, mobile phone, or game console. Once they find out you have something that interests them, they will come and talk to you.
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2016-04-06 17:39:08
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answered by Anonymous
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