Everytime I see my friends or old friends at school, MySpace, or Friendster, I always thought of myself how grow up my friends are, how someday they're gonna be successful people, or so judging by how many friends they got or how smart or ambitious they are or so. And when I take a look at myself. It was all blank. I don't even know what I wanna be. I always think like, "Am I gonna die soon that I can't even see myself in the future?" So why can't I see the future of what I'll become? Is it because of my pessimistic thoughts of myself after seeing the others? Or is it something else?
Please take this question seriously, thanks!
2007-02-21 14:23:29 · 4 answers · asked by polaris_innocent 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hey hey hey!!!!
okay answer this question.....when you in a running race....do you run looking straight ahead or do you run looking at others by your side or behind you????
ofcourse you keep looking infront vecause you lose track if you are focusing too hard on others right?!
life is like that too...its good to be competitive, but dont compare your life with theirs....they have different cisrumstances....you just havent found what you like or what you want to be yet...so what??? not such a big deal...i know lots of ppl who are successful and still unhappy and even some who arent very nice ppl.....and i know some in your shoes and they are some of the most wonderful ppl.....who infact i have chosen to be my friends....
dont think aout death....just think about what you want to do and be....and strive towards that....if you cant see too far in the future its okay...at least plan the next day....or the next week....make actions plans.....1week plan....1month plan....3 month plan.....etc etc.....and soon enough you will have future plans too....just take a step at a time!
and smile....lifes too short to worry about these things...be greatful for what you have....your future is in your hands and at the will of Him above.....if you try He will help you...thats what i think!
good luck!
2007-02-21 14:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jia K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're completely normal, there is no reason to be worried. Sometimes even grown people don't know what they want to do with their life, while some people are lucky enough to figure it out at a young age. Your friends, to be honest, probably haven't all figured out what they want to do with themselves either, but they choose what they're interested in and then go on from there.
I mean if you're interested with working with animals, then you aren't going to major in, say, oh... I don't know... accounting. Just for an example. So instead of worrying about your friends or whatever, why don't you sit yourself down and have a serious discussion with yourself about what you'd like to do with your life. Then you'll be well on your way to becoming successful as well. :)
2007-02-21 22:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, in our culture the thought of having your "calling" or vocation clear is way overrated. It makes us feel as if we were supposed to be born knowing exactly what we want to do with our lives.
It is like that for some people, but not for everyone. Don´t panic, though, there are things you can do to find out what you wanna do: there are tests, counselors, older people, etc. the sky is not gonna open up for you and show you the answer, you need to get out there and find out for yourself. Take this matter into your own hands: talk to people (trust me, you are not the only one who feels like this), do research online on different professions, volunteer in your community...
And i bet some of your friends, even the ones who say they know exactly what they wanna do, have the same doubts. Good luck!
2007-02-21 22:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by No se 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need a personal mission statement. Sit down and map out a plan for your life. (You decide!) Then put it somewhere you can refer to it regularly. Everything you do, you will have that in mind and that will get you going in the right direction. It will help you with all of your decisions, or example...you look for a job, are you going to look for a job that has a no where to go? Or are you going to look for a job that helps you meet your goals? It really works, try it. Start with something small like saving two thousand dollars. Then grow from there.
2007-02-21 22:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋