In my 20's I made a lot of money, had a lot of party and women and lived in the fast lane. Then came the train wreck of my life and it all ended. Today I am blessed to be a full-time parent of my son (who came of that ordeal) and I love him very much - no complaints there... I have lived very simple for the last 8 years with him...single I might add. I have been brought to another opportunity in life where I am about to make a lot of money again. This time I know I am older and wiser, so I know what mistakes not to make again. BUT - my feelings are such - working like I do (which I enjoy what I do) I get lost in it and when it hits big like this, it consumes me. I have yet to meet the woman of my dreams and do pray for her. I have had thoughts of letting this financial opportunity go and trade it in for the simple life with a woman I can love and not complicate things with money. If I dream of chassing the yacht and cars, I seem to lose touch with reality - what would you do?
2007-02-21 14:14:03 · 2 answers · asked by techbiz 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm sure many people can stay in touch with reality and their sanity after a large accumulation of money. I have a friend who's rich, but he's just like anyone my age.
2007-02-21 14:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by 0dd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is, unfortunately, not something that can be easily answered.
Let me commend you for your desire to do right by your son and your future.
I can start off by telling you that, yes, in response to your general question, you can maintain your priorities even though you're rich.
My uncle is a millionaire but he is a wonderful man. His family always comes first, he helps out at church, he put me up for 3 years at his place and sponsored my higher education. The only pleasures in his life are his family, his cats, his DVD collection and the occasional game of golf.
What I would do is try to understand why I end up consumed by the racey pleasures of the fast life. Usually, behind every addiction is a root. It could be a lack of real accepting love in your life from your parents or someone that brought forth fears of failure, of the harsh realities of life, of so many things. I don't know you so I can't tell you.
My next step would be to find a way to overcome that weakness in my life and get it out of my system if I could. This can be tough because this is not a battle anyone can do alone. Get help from people you can trust (i.e.close friends, parents, family). Be willing to stay accountable. I believe in Jesus so I would also ask Him for help because if He can help my dad with his temper, I'm sure He can help me with my own weaknesses.
Once that is out of the way, I think it'll be easier to come to a decision and handle success better.
The best thing I would suggest though, if I may, is to check with the Big Boss Upstairs. He knows best.
All the best and God bless.
2007-02-21 14:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋