A guy that I know, who is about 6 years younger than I am (I'm 36) dropped in out of the blue Tuesday morning at my work. It surprised me that he walked in and I said, "Can I help you?"....I just thought he was there to do business. He said, "I noticed you were here by yourself and thought I'd drop in to say HI". - Ok....So I got this weird feeling. We are both married and I don't know what to think of him dropping in to say Hi out of the blue. I am not interested in him but I just wondered what you guys think. Should I just blow it off or tell my husband I think he's flirting with me. I really hate to jump to a conclusion and stir up a big mess if he's just really "Saying Hi"....but why would he do that?!?! I see him once or twice a month in a business that I have to go into to pay bills and we speak whenever we bump into each other....but I got this weird feeling when he came in to say Hi! What should I think?
2007-02-21 14:13:28 · 10 answers · asked by sugarbud 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men they always have their reasons but I must say that you need to calm down. You see unless he makes a false move then you involve the husband and I have learned this my friend the hard way. I had this weird idea in my head the one of his friends were flirting with me because the way he smiled at me and the things he said until I got to know him better and recognized that he was just a very nice person. Don't drop a brick on your foot yet just watch him closely and deal with it yourself to help a bad situation from getting worse. Put him in his place and make him aware that you are married and not interested as well as you respect the virtues of marriage and your marriage is something worth keeping and you husband as well is someone that you love and think that he is worth staying faithful to. Whatever you do be very stern about your warning.
2007-02-21 14:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont think too much of it. Men normally does things that may not mean a thing. It may be just being in good mood and also harmless flirting.
But if it continues often, you can actually asked him in a friendly manner. About telling your husband is not a good idea as he may misunderstood the whole thing. You know yourself, and you will not prolong the episode or get involved with him. Anyway what is a little flirting, for all you know it will boost your ego.
Good Luck
2007-02-21 22:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please girl don't pursue this it will only get you into trouble men love that and he's waiting now for you to make the next move guys love to put women into oxward situations just say hi oh yeah now you do the rest of the pursuing and then next you wonder how the heck you got this far i would just keep it like you said at a business matter and don't give your husband a reason to be jealous he's your safety net! men married or not are always gonna be attractive to other women.Please don't read more into what he is doing. they love to confuse women.
2007-02-21 22:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmmmm...........that is weird. Well, this is what I would do. If he does it again, I would tell your hubby, but if he doesn't then don't worry about it. If he does and it is really bothering you, the next time, just ask him how his wife is doing. Maybe that will put his mind back where it should be. Be thankful that you are that charming of a person. Good luck!
2007-02-21 22:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Smarty Pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you have said, you are not interested with him.
it's just that you are having some unavoidable business transactions.
don't dare asking him 'cause you might land into an awkward situation.
especially if he really means nothing in saying hi except for a simple greetings.
stay cool & composed.
stay faihtful to your hubby forever.
2007-02-21 22:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by twistertwirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is checking you out and trying to figure out if you are interested. He just made the first move toward letting you know that he is interested in per suing something with you. If you are totally uncomfortable and not interested, let him know. Do not let it go and wait for him to make another attempt to get close to you. It is important that you make it clear that you have no intentions in talking to him. Good Luck!
2007-02-21 22:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes our wild imagination may tricked us into jumping conclusion. Since both of you are already married and as you have said that you aren't interested in him, why bother? I don't think he is serious.
2007-02-21 22:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
d just leave it for now. He could have jus honestly seen you and decided to say hello. Leave it at that. If it happens again only something more is said or insinuated, bring it up with him first, tell him you aren't comfortable, then let your hubby know what has happened.
2007-02-21 22:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't fret over it. May be he was just passing by and saw you and said Hi. If this repeats, then may be you should make it more obvious to him that you feel odd when people act wierd.
2007-02-21 22:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by SP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a swinging,
2007-02-21 22:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋