My friends and i got in a huge fight! Plz help...?

Question

i got in a fight with my bestfriend a while ago about my other friend and we are not bestfriends anymore where not even friends and i've triend everything shes like i dont like you so stop trying to be my friend. also my other bestfriend who is bestfriends with the first one i got in a fight with, we also got in a fight and i shes like your so annoying and i dont want to be friends with you anymore. she is in 3 classes of mine and its hard to see her everyday not talking to her.
its so awkward.
i hate my life, everyone hates me and i feel like dying
and today when we were waiting for the buses no one talked to me and i was alone and my old bestfriends sent me a email saying that "no one likes me and you are so annoying and today in in our bus we all laughed about you"
and i just felt like dying
plz help!!!
i need lots of advice

Answer 1

It sounds like you rub people the wrong way somehow. You have old bestfriends who dont like you and newer ones since them that dont like you. At this rate there wont be anyone left.You need to figure out what you are doing that makes all these people so mad at you and work on changing it. I cant advise more than that because I dont know why they are all mad at you.

Answer 2

I know its difficult when you best friends all desert you. You will feel all alone. It does happen to all of us. try to understand their point of view even though it is really hard. Maybe you can figure out what it is that set them off on you and where you right? If it was something stupid, shake it off, keep your head hi and smile as hard as that is, it will annoy them that you are happy. If they don't like you anymore and its over stupidness the negativity they caused you will go back to them a couple of times, just ignore them and realise that you are a good person and if thats the way they feel then they where probably not very good friends to be with anway. Life is too short to have false friends. There is a reason for everything and you will have better friends in no time. Please keep your chin up and smile, to do this even when you are down will make people realise that you are a brave and good person no matter what anyone says about you. Take care Heather

Answer 3

Well, it sounds like you're going through what all teenagers go through. Yes, we have all hated our lives at one point or another. I've gotten into fights with my best friends and didn't speak for a while too. But it's been 10 years and we're all still friends. I GUARANTEE that this will pass. It's possilbe that the e-mail was sent just to upset you. If this person even took the time out to write the e-mail, then that shows that they care. Believe me....you have to learn to "shake the haters off." I know it's really upsetting right now, but you have to act like it isn't bothering you. If you give em the power, they will use it. If you've tried everything, then just know that you did your part to mend the friendship. Now it's up to your friend. If a arguement can ruin your friendship, then maybe that person wasn't your friend. Just hang in there.

P.S. A lot of people didn't like my sister either. The funny thing is that she went on to become her classes Prom Queen. Go figure. :) And I'm sure that everyone doesn't hate you. If you are the topic of their discussion, then you're doing something right. Trust me.

Answer 4

Listen. The more you show them how upset you are about this, the more they will try to hurt you. I know it's hard, but try not to show them. Don't open emails from them since you already know that they are only going to say something to hurt you. Change email addys if possible or just don't go into your email. Have someone delete them so that you don't even see them...then you can say, " I dn't even know what you're talking about..what emails???" and you won't be lying!! What you don't know can't hurt you.
Obviously, they weren't the friends you thought they were. Why would you wanna hang with them anyways??? You're SO much better than that. Don't take that from them.
Look...think about people outside school. Who do you talk to? Is there anyone you talk to at school at all??
This will pass. You WILL find friends if you don't have any now. If you don't want to try to find friends at school, then join a club or something where you can make new friends.
DOn't worry about them...let them have each other. SOunds like they were made for each other!!!

Answer 5

Friends come and go and there is more to life then your friends. You surely do not feel like dying over this. This would be a good time to meet new people.... Mingle in a different circle... Kids are MEAN. Unfortunatly it is a part of life that we all have to deal with. As you get older, you will look back on this and laugh and you will probably be laughing about it with the same friends that you are fighting with right now.

PS- Sending you e-mails like that is considered "bullying" and isn't tolerated in most school systems. If they keep it up, print the e-mails and share then with your school guidance counselor OR your ex-friends parents.

Answer 6

The more you try the more they will reject you! This is how a circle of best friends work. One week you are in & the next your out! Ok this is what you do. Rise above them! Send an image that you don't need them that they would be the lucky ones to be your friend! Don't look at them, don't attempt to talk to them, don't acknowledge them! You may be lonely bit it won't last long. Ride it out, in a week or two they will have forgotten this episode and moved on to new drama! They will get mad at each other and one of them will be out and you will be back in! It's a vesious circle! Besides they have no right to make you feel so low about yourself. They are not any more than you are. Actually you are giving them the power to make you miserable. STOP IT!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Omg the same happend to me!!! so my best friend I will call her J and the other girl i will call D ok sooo...J and I were the closest of friends in the group. J and I connected so well when we met. We had so much in common. We both considered each other best friends. She was the greatest friend I ever had. She was so nice and supportive. The only problem was that others in the group felt that they didn’t have enough time with Jbecaus e her and I were always together. This is where the jealousy came about. J and I ignored the jealousy though until it got worse.
One day at lunch all of us sat down as usual but for some reason it didn’t feel right. Someone wasn’t very happy with me. It was quiet. I had no idea what was wrong so I asked the group. Turns out that they didn’t like me being with J so much. D especially wasn’t very happy. She became jealous of me. She really did like J and felt she never had time with her. I was stunned. I didn’t know that I wasn’t giving her enough time with J. I felt like crying.
After lunch I talked with J. She told me to just ignore it and that things would be ok and that we could work things out with the rest of the group. But I ignored her advice and tried to come up with a solution. My solution was that I would leave the group and see how they would do without me. I felt so upset and I felt that I wasn’t giving them what they want. I thought I was causing all this jealousy so I wanted to leave and let everyone be happy without me. I was mad at myself!
The next day at lunch I decided to tell the group my stupid idea. I told them how I felt and told them that I was going to leave the group for a while so that they can have a break from me. J was very upset about this but the rest of the group thought that it was ok. I got up from our little circle and left the lunch space in tears. I knew that leaving was the best thing to do in order for D to have her time with J. After all they might have been happy without me.
I felt empty without them. Everyday during school I was alone. I would watch J and D have their time. They were enjoying it! They would get closer and closer each day as I sat at the other end of the room wishing it were me. All four of them mad. Mad at me for what I did. I was selfish and I hated myself more and more. I was getting sick. Sick in the head and sick in the stomach. Weeks went by and I just turned to dust right in front of them. I was being ignored. I would watch the group smile together, having fun! Then I would look at myself. I was becoming depressed, bored, lonely and sick.
My plan seemed to be working just fine. D won Js friendship and the group spent more time together. But here I was now, the jealous one. I was now jealous of D! All this upset me and it was giving me stomach aches. I even took off days of school cause I couldn’t handle it. I was falling apart. Months no went by, the year was coming to an end. I didn’t want to be in this position anymore. I went to the nurse in tears. I told her about my stomach aches and my problems. She told me that she would bring in the four girls and we would all have a discussion.
. This was all a misunderstanding. I was the one that caused all this nonsense. If only I didn’t give my best friend time with another to get close. I ruined everything, I made a huge mistake! so what i did was just give them space but no i am good friends with J

Answer 8

Well, I know its hard to have people laughing at you but sometimes you gotta forget the little things in life, they're not a big issue to you in your society and life, so forget them.

Yeah, sometimes you'll feel like dying but you know you gotta hold up and be stronger. Think of wat makes u happy inside, listen to music, dont talk to them messy girls anymore, start over, clean, and fresh. Make new friends. There are bound to be, like what? 500 kids in ur school? Make friends with a group of them. Dont worry, as time passes by, you'll get over it. Trust me, I've been through that, only worster.

I've been thro a lot of drama with my friends and I regret some of my mistakes but i try to look on brighter things and worry bout the bigger things in life, like what am i going to be when i grow up? Or What about my family?

If they email you again, who says you gotta reply back? If they continue to email u, dont reply back or block them, thats all u gotta do. Your just a kid and you can always make new friends. Pick me as best answer please! :)

Answer 9

Tell your friend say "look, were not doing so hot right now...and yea I kno we've had a fight...but why should we hate each other like this, everyone goes through fights...lets not make this last longer than it should. We need to get over this and Im willing to, you need to understand we are friends and I would NEVER want to hurt you, as I hope you would never want to hut me. I apologize and can we please get over it." If you really stay firm itll work

Answer 10

sweetie- these girls do not sound like real friends at all. You keep you head above it all.
In our young lives things like this can happen- it is something we must deal with and move forward. Do not play their games- if you get emails, just delete them and dont make your self sad by reading their thoughts.
Do not hate yourself. and also talk with your mom or dad.
(more tomorrow)