Why don't I meet other people who are looking for new friends? Like people I don't know never start talking to me like I do with them. People I have never met. Whenever I ask for advise I am told to be outgoing, so i do that but other people are never outgoing to me.
I'm was very shy but have pushed myself out of it. I try to meet people and make friends but it seems like I am the only one trying. What I mean is I talk to people in class and such all the time, but no one ever starts a conversation with me. I don't mind doing it, but always having to be the one to do it gets tiring and is confusing me. Are most people uninterested in makeing more friends? Do they have all the friends they want? Are there many people who are looking for friends?
(I don't smell bad)
I'm not pushy, most of the time i ask people if they like this class.
2007-02-21 14:01:39 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe is the approach u r adopting. Sometimes, ppl feel arward when someone approach them in an unnatural manner.
I always believe there r lots of ppl who is friendly to meet up with u, the only things is r u in the right place and time?
A pointer, when making friends , try to be as natural as possible and subtle, don't not make them feel like u r doing it intentionally, otherwise u looks like weirdo t them instead. Gd luck. cheers!
2007-02-21 19:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a hard time making friends in school too. I'm now 32, and I still have a hard time making friends. Most people these days have their own family, their own friends already established and they have their own lives. A lot of them have friends from elementary school,and they remain friends all through school. Some people don't meet friends until high school and they stay friends through adulthood. I met my friends in high school. I only had two true friends and we are still friends to this day. All the other people who I made friends with through life have either moved on somewhere else and I never here from them again, or they only contact me once in a while. You can still have friends, but they are not always going to be what you think they should be. I know it sounds confusing, but you will understand better when you get older. For now, if you want to try to make new friends, just say hi, How are you today. I don't think I'd ask if they like the class. Just saying Hi is enough. If they want to talk to you they will. If not, that's their loss.
2007-02-21 14:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by April Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you want friends so bad, no one is coming to your rescue. People can sense when someone is trying so hard for something. Most of the time that's a turn off. Relax. Don't try so hard and you will have friends in no time. What are you talking about anyway besides class? Try to talk about stuff that is interesting. A new movie? TV? Sports? Fashion? These topics should start some meaningful conversations and hopefully many friendships. Good Luck.
2007-02-21 14:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I know for a fact every single person at my school would want a cool new friend so never give up. Hell, If you sarted talkin to me we'd become good friends and I think most people are like to so I dont know whats the problem.. Maybe you just unfortunantly picked a bunch of wrong people. Keep going Im sure you'll make wonderful friends
2007-02-21 14:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by flonkas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because a lot of people are just plain rude these days .. most talk to people because they want help with something, or they want to know something. At least that's in my experience! I remember at time when you could strike up a conversation with someone at a bus stop, now a days if you do that the other person looks at you like your sh*t and if you're not careful you could get hit!! What's wrong with the world today, why are people so mean to one another? *sniff*
2007-02-21 14:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a quiet girl who hung around the wrong crowd but now that I am older I feel similar, at work people are always laughing and talking , noone really iniates a conversation with somertimes I will slyly ease my way to be included.
2007-02-21 14:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have a friend you must be a friend. Quit acting like your better than everyone else. Look people in the eye when you have a conversation with them...like your interested, you will soon have friends. Dont keep talking about yourself.
2007-02-21 14:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are generally reserve and usually keep within their own cycle. Only once in a while that they break free from their circle to interact with another, this is because of need due to business or advantage in another circle.
People are inert, you don't push or kick them, they won't move. Nudge them a little and they will talk to you, I guess you would have to initiaite the ice breaker then ^_^.
2007-02-21 14:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by IIDX Chem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you "too" outgoing, and get into details about your personal life 2 minutes after you meet someone? I've seeing people like this and it really turns potential "friends" off.
2007-02-21 14:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most of the people are shy too, you just cant see from outside.
I have same experience as you. Keep trying. Good Luck.
Add me to msn or e-mail if u want, maybe we can talk about this.
freeman71386@yahoo.com.hk
2007-02-21 14:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by Freeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋