but he can't seem to make up his mind. We are only together on the weekends. I am wondering if I am rushing things or am I wasting my time with this man?
2007-02-21 13:54:51 · 15 answers · asked by crazygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whats he doing the rest of the week? Maybe thats why he cant make up his mind. 2 years is long enough. I was gonna mary a girl in 1990 that I lived with for 6 months. I had a boy and a girl and she had none. my kids was a problem for her but not as much as thier mother. it was the mother of my kids that my girlfriend had a problem with and they never had words. I think more men have that kind of a problem than women so just tell him to tie the knot or cut it.
2007-02-21 14:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! You are almost telling my story except I have 4 children and he and I have been together for 7 years. I mainly see him once on the weekend if that. I know I'm wasting my time but I thank God that I quit trying to rush it because all the controlling qualities came out. My kids aren't around him very much.They love him and he loves them but if the parents don't make it then you've just screwed the kids up AGAIN. I let him come over when they go to sleep because I don't want them to get any more attached. He has no children and has never been married. I really thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life w/ him but at this point I'd be scared to death to marry him. I think I'll just date him forever because I really think it would be a mistake to marry for me or you. Don't you ever..excuse me..always question yourself about him? Imagine doing that for a few more years and still not having the answer. Good luck! Make the kids keep their distance for their sake.
2007-02-21 14:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be rushing things if you are only together on the weekends. You should try spending more time together during the week to see if you two are really ready.
2007-02-21 13:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by OffLiCute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 05:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by lipton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi:
this is always hard as i am a mom of 1 and recently got married to a guy my daughter is not his and this is how i did it. i did not allow him around my daughter until i saw that he was serioous about me and then us. i asked questions periodcally about what he felt about children and his invlovement with them. if it seems that that he is not interested in learning your ways and how you function on a daily basis with the children, he may not be interested in the commitment that 3 children involve. he may not be ready for a self made family as of yet. it takes more than 2-3 days to intergrate within a familiy unit, it takes time love and dedication, and when my husband showed this with me and had a genuine concern for meeting my child i introduced him 6 months later. i say give him space dont call unless he calls you, and see where his mind is.
2007-02-21 14:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by angelswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are rushing anything, 2 years is plenty of time for us men to make up our minds. I think you might be wasting you time. However, there are plenty of us good men out here who would just love to have a ready made family:) Go get em, Darlin:)
2007-02-25 13:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by maydynzwarrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weekends aren't really enough time to seriously contemplate marrying someone, IMHO. Start spending more than two days a week together before you start thinking determining this person's life-worthiness.
2007-02-21 14:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man loves you but not enough to take on 3 kids that belongs to someone else. You are asking a lot of him and I think he will run from you and your kids.Most man would say there isn't that much love in the world.If he does move in with you then hold on to him.
2007-02-21 14:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is a waste of time with someone you want to be with. If you want to get married for whatever reason, and one isn't necessarily inclined to do so, then you may wait a long time for marriage.
2007-02-21 14:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by pitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know the reason for seeing each other on the weekends, but regardless, I think he is dragging his feet. You should get a yes or no, you cant wait around. You are not a weekend fling.
2007-02-21 14:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋