Loneliness?

Question

How exactly do you deal with loneliness? I've been feeling lonely...i don't really have any friends i can talk to ...i have friends...just none i can talk to and none that i trust...i don't trust people...i just wanna know how to deal with loneliness...I'm Christian...but i'm not gonna act like a fake...i feel like leaving and just going by myself...cuz i feel like crying...i have no privacy in my house i share a room...i feel like im not my own person...my mom hates me...she recently told me that im sick in my mind and that im a lie and that she didn't care about my feelings...i have so many questions...but no one is ever around to answer. i have such a low self esteem... i feel like i will never get married...i'll just be like this forever...i get good grades in school...and im in the national junior honor society...but then why do i feel like everyone else is smarter than me? i have recently been feeling like my dreams have been slipping away...i just wanna know how to deal with it

thanks u guys...blackfoot i didnt exactly like that u called my mom a sick person...at this point in time i am not living with my mom...courtorder with my parents...they believe im safer with my dad...and i recently started feeling like my love for my mom was fading quickly...i still love her...just not as a mother...and when u said that and i felt kinda offended that showed that i did still love her somewhat or else i wouldn't have cared as much as i did. Thank u for the invite to talk to u blackfoot!i do talk to a mother a my friend...ive never met her in person but ive talked to her on the phone before...and her daughter too. abra cadabra u r like me..excpet in december i just turned 13 in the 7th grade. u describe me well..i have friends...i just hate talking to people afrauid they might think im stupid. i trust my friends...but decided not to show that part of me. fwh_800 my mother did call me that over the phone. thanks for answering though.

i didnt have enough characters to finish writing! =] i felt like i should thank all of yall because you guys did help alot. i actually felt really touched that u guys even bothered to give me detailed answers instead of something like " go to a counselor"
blackfoot...i dont need medicine, im not taking offensively, but i dont need depression stuff, i dont need a therapist...my mom kept saying i needed to see one because she thinks im messed up. she really does...or maybe everything i said to her, thats just what she wants, for me to be messed up because she doesn't want to believe the truth i told her. abracadabra i do want to tlk to u since u r my age. =] well close. terry cat, thanks for the advice! and thanks for trying to boost my self esteem! thanks alot.
RenRen, thanks alot for everything u told me about yourself and everything u went through and everything ur going through now. u gave me great advice. wishingwe... thank u for the advice. =]
T-Vol, thank you so much =]

Answer 1

if you are up to a certain point where you want to cry, just cry. try to release your tension if there's nothing else you can do. after this, try to become more independent. pick up new hobbies or start playing sports. you need to get away from what ever gives you stress for now.

there are always people smarter than you. you are most likely smarter than me. have you decided what you want to do with your future? there's nothing better than to pursue your passion.

Answer 2

Just hang in there. Isolation is a "heavy burden". Hopefully, as time passes by, you'll meet that one person in life that will always be there for you; either if that is where you are right now or somewhere else. If you don't like the friends you have right now, try to search for another and opening up to the world a little more. All of this is coming from a person who is going through the exact same thing. I hope I helped and good luck. :)

Answer 3

OH WOW . your mom called you a lie what does she mean a lie . she would have to be a sick person to tell her child that.NEVER ACT LIKE A FAKE be true to your self . do you have a guidance counslor at school. someone to talk to would def be helpful. do you have insurance could you go to a mental health place you need a therapist to talk to u may also have depression with talking to heer and if need be medicine you should feel better.how about a preacher ,a woman your church ,sunday school teacher ,school teacher,mother of your friends. if you want to talk send me a message and i will answer u back i can talk to you and if u have questions i can see if i can answer them if not i will find someone to answer them .how old are you ? lots of girls go through this while growing up some worse than others but how they make it through it depends on who they have to talk to .

Answer 4

Loneliness, is a very hard thing to deal with, if you have no friends that you can talk to, or no family that you can talk to, and you still go to school, why not try talking to your counselor, and you said that your christian, try talking to your pastor, that's what a counselor and a pastor is there for, is to talk to and to help you, with everything thing that is going on in your life, you are still getting good grades and you are in the national junior honor society, be very proud of that, and who are, keep your head up, don't let nothing slip away from you, you don't deserve that, you can also go to the library, I do believe they have books on loneliness, that you can read up on, if you don't want to talk to any one. I wish you all the best. God Bless

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You have to take things day by day. You're letting what happened yesterday affect you today. I know exactly how you feel, and I'm gonna try to help you. I will be your friend, too. To introduce myself, my name is Abby. I'm 11 years old, and I'm in the 6th Grade. I'm in the Junior Beta Club, an honors club. We have lots in common, I think. I'm shy, and I think no one understands me. I just don't fit in at school, and I'm so quiet that sometimes people even forget that I'm there. It stinks, and I don't fit in with anyone. I have friends, but I'm starting to wonder if they really are my friends. I think most of them are using me. I know where you're coming from. I don't have any friends in my class, and really, I don't care to be their friends. They hurt people for no reason, including me, and why would anyone wanna hang out with them? Anyways, don't let your mom affect your future. You don't have to live with her forever, and guess what? When you're still young, 18, you can move out. Get away from people that don't influence you and tell you you'll mount to nothing. That's definitely not true, and YOU decide your future, not them. You mount to nothing when only YOU believe you'll mount to nothing, so believen yourself. Look in the mirror and say: You're smart, and when you grow up, you're going to do whatever you want to do, and NO ONE is going to hold you back.
Prove everybody wrong. That's what I'm gonna do. All these girls that hate me (they don't even know me), I'm gonna show them that I'm smart, and I can do whatever I want. I'm gonna show them that no matter how much they hate me, it doesn't mean anything...and it doesn't affect my future or me. You can't believe that you'll be like this forever. For anything to happen, you have to first believen YOURSELF! No one else will believe you if you don't believe yourself. The people that tell you that you will mount to nothing want you to believe that, but I KNOW you will be a great person when you grow up. You can't let them bring you down.
You can e-mail me anytime you want at [e-mail]. I switch back from my mom's to my dad's, so I may not answer right away, but I promise I will answer back.

Answer 7

I think u r under going thru a crisis in life most of us went thru. It is horrible as far as I can remember when I was like that previously.
U need confidence, positive thinking and self encouraging mind to get over all this. Is might sounds too easy to say than done but I'm afraid there's the only way out.
I've been all long no gd frens to share my problems, don't trust them like u and even I believe they won't even understand me at all. But I glad I hv this gift inside me that keep telling me to get up and move on. That is why, even I in a serious trouble, it won't take long for me to buckle up and keep going in no time. Even my divorce which is the worst crisis I gone thru takes me 6 mths to freed from the depression. I come to think that I do really need anyone to gv me advise except myself cos no one can understand me better than myself and I happy with it even now.
The next thing u gonna do is , do something u believe in. I've had parents that don't treat me as part of the family previously, so I move out yet still come back to visit them frequently regardless whether what they say and curse abt me. My mom is stubborn and won't listen to my explaination. Worst, my both parents had never talk to me anything personal even family related matters since I was a kid till now. My brothers and sisters think I'm an alien and just to fit in their conversation at all. What shld I do? I go out looking for frens. Yes, this can be gd and bad depending what kind of frens u will be meeting. I come to meet gd ones and also bad ones. Luckily, something inside me quickly respond and prompted me to get away from the bad.
Now, my mom started talking to me and my brothers & sisters become neutral to me instead of agressive previously.
To me the main thing is, never give up believing in yourself! Actually, I come to realise even if I had frens that I can talk to , I still won't not trust them. So whether or not someone listen to me is not important.
Hope it help. Always remember u will never be alone unless u believe it so! Cheers, u will find a way!

Answer 8

you shouldn't think in a negative way.you should learn to trust others for it's hard to feel like your alone forever..think in a positive way, boost your self esteem by being approachable and friendly.
you can't say that your mom didn't care on what you feel,maybe for some reasons why she seems like what you think she is right now.i guess no mom could hate his/her children..so cheer up!!!your not alone.. there's a lot of people around you who cares to you,it's just you don't notice them.
and besides theirs God.!!take care........ :)