I just want to be able to tell my friends without them thinking differently of me. I don't like the fact that I am keeping this to myself. Any suggestions on how to go about this?
2007-02-21 13:48:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm kind of in the same bind.
I think if you feel claustrophobic {i.e. you "don't like...keeping" it to yourself}, you might consider who you feel comfortable telling.
For example, perhaps your parents, if you think they'd support you. It's very individual. Maybe, instead of your parents, a couple of close friends who you know can keep a lid on things. Maybe a teacher. Maybe a counselor.
You're going to get some negative responses. No lie. Some boys and girls don't have the maturity to deal with the fact that their girlfriend could cheat on them with another chick/their friend might eye them up appreciately by the pool. Sad but true.
Do what feels right in your gut and keep the faith.
2007-02-21 14:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Adrian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slowly. Bring up the ideas of sexuality first. Get their ideas on the subject first. Slowly bring up the idea that people you know are gay or bisexual. Some people are always gonna freak out, but most can get used to the idea if you go slowly enough.
Good luck. I am bi and have gone thru the same thing. Moreso because I've come out to many of my friends as polyamorous.
You will lose some friends. I've lost a few myself.
2007-02-21 13:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for Pete's sake...your 14!!!
Trust me you will be MANY things before you truly define that which is your self. Many live entire lives without doing so.
You will change your mind, your tastes, your clothes etc.
At your age it is very important for kids to find their identity. You need to be an individual, etc. Being cool is very important too but the fact is that most people really aren't cool nor do they need to fit into any box to define your individuality.
At your age it is am I bi, am I emo, am I a jock or a nerd? It was the same when I was a kid only the clic names were different but the idea was the same.
Just be yourself. Do things you would be proud of.
Be a person that you love and you like and people will love and like you for it no matter if your bi, gay, goi, troy, or boy. No matter if your orange, purple, emo, goth, dorker or porker. You are beautiful and you have your whole life to find out who you really are. Live it, love it!
Just chill!
It all works out in the end.
2007-02-21 15:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by Papa Mac DaddyJoe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're 14. You shouldn't be anything! I don't care who get ticked off at me for my opinion but you are too young to handle adult matters. Where are you parents or guardians in all this? I suggest you talk to those people about your going on the internet looking for attention. Very few 14 year olds are mature enough to actually know what their orientation is, and to proclaim yourself bi-sexual at such an early age is a Brittany Spears cry out for intervention.
2007-02-21 14:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why at 14 do you have to tell your parents that you are Bi...or at that piont tell anybody that your bi...you only go around telling people if your bi to be cool or diffrent or trying to get attention. If along your journey in life come across another person that you find yourself close to then you should be able to tell them with out wondering how to tell them with out worry. It should come natural, just be happy with yourself and f*ck every one else that thinks bad of you.
2007-02-21 13:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Spades Of Columbia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If thier really your friends they would keep on being your friend and treating you the same way. If they laugh at you i wouldnt be friends w/them.Friends treat you with respect.They dont care about the way you look,or the way you are,or the ethinc group you are in. They care about the person inside you.Just tell them the truth.Honesty is the important part a in a friendship!!!
2007-02-21 13:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Queen 106 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to tell them, just be who you are and let them accept you. Is there a need to have a sign around your neck telling everyone your attraction, just be yourself and another attracted person will come along without the flag waving
2007-02-21 14:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hay with me I just put it on myspace and let them find out there selfs some did not belive it but when they asked I said ya I am bi some were afended and some said ok whatever
2007-02-21 13:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by terrybradley64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell anyone that ur bi....ESP. ANY BOYS...boys are immature..and they are just going to think ur doing it for attention or that u'll want to have a threesome with them....only tell a girl that u like and want to hookup with.....dont tell anyone unless u feel that they can handle it in a mature fashion.
2007-02-21 13:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by Pee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 05:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by lipton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋