How do I try to become an extrovert instead of being shy?

Question

What can I do to be confident and brave and not shy.

Answer 1

The thing that works the most with this is, find a friend who is very outgoing and do things with them that you're normally too shy to do. Think of it as fun, and stop stressing it. Forget how everyone perceives you for just a little bit and go to a place where noone knows you, except for that one, outgoing friend. Beware, though. Sometimes people get a little overindulgent with their newfound self and get into serious trouble. Be responsible. Being outgoing and having fun is worth cracking you shell, I promise!

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. Introverts tend to have deeper relationships then extroverts. Extroverts tend to be the life of the party but have less fulfilling relationships, because they like a variety of people. You can be confident and brave without becoming an extrovert. I studied this in college, and I personally feel, that there is a middle category that is not named yet. I am in the middle category that has no name. Introverts are not always shy. Your shyness has nothing to do with either category. It has to do with you.

Answer 3

If you are a physical reaction to social situations, first you have to address this reaction. There are several simple relaxation techniques you can use to reduce your level of physiological arousal. One relaxation technique involves tightening and loosening your muscles, such as squeezing your hands into a tight fist and then letting go, to reduce some of the tension you are experiencing (progressive muscle relaxation).
http://webspace.ship.edu/cgboer/musclerelaxation.html
If your problem of shyness is behavioral, there are a variety of strategies you can develop to help you learn to respond more appropriately and effectively. Here are three recommendations:
1. Start with very, very small talk and simple actions: Getting your feet wet
2. Develop conversation skills: How to keep talking
3. Rehearse what you are going to say: Practice makes perfect

For those shy people whose shyness is expressed primarily through negative thoughts about themselves, the key to overcoming their shyness is to change the way they think about themselves. Such change is more difficult than it sounds, because it is not easy to change the thoughts an individual may have had about himself or herself since early childhood. Here are six strategies for reducing the cognitive component of shyness:
1. Reduce your sense of self-consciousness: The whole world is not looking at you.
2. Focus on your social successes: Stop whipping yourself
3. Avoid overgeneralizations: It may not be your fault
4. Avoid perfectionism: Nobody's perfect
5. Learn to take rejection: No one is liked by everyone
6. Find your comfort zone: Do what fits you

Answer 4

Takes practice. I made the change a while back and it just took the effort to talk to people. Start with the people you know best, maybe that you already talk to, and ask them to introduce you to others who they think you would like.

If you really think you don't know anyone, try to think of someone you see frequently and decide the next time you see him or her you will approach, smile, and say at least these three things:

"Hi"

"How are you?" (wait for an answer!)

"I am feeling OK, and it sure is cold (or warming up, if it is)"

After that, you may or may not have a conversation. Try NOT to talk about yourself, but ask questions of the other.

If this is someone you see every day, say Hi every day. Next thing you know you may be talking a lot, and enjoying it.

Answer 5

Drink ALOT of alcohol!!!! Just Kidding!!!

Answer 6

Accept yourself for who you truly are, and be proud of who you are.