Me and my husband had a split only 4 a week and we r back together, he's happy and I am (kinda) I just feel like cuz he walked out that door that I was a bad wife, but he tells me my heart was 2 big, I let people always live with us. He tells me I am a great person and all is forgiven, but I just feel like I let him down in someway, but he's my world,some one help, I don't like feeling this way.
2007-02-21 13:24:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not a bad wife or a bad person. Sounds like you just care too deeply. That is not a problem. Try talking to him about your decisions you make. Live for yourself and him and don't try to help everyone out with their problems. Believe me, it is not easy. My hubby is always telling me I care too much about what other people's problems are. We keep each other anchored. I keep him from being to standoffish and uncaring and he keeps me from caring too much.
2007-02-21 13:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your husband feels neglected by you. You seem to put people first before him. You may have a big heart and are always nice to people, but you can always say 'no' to them to. Plus, you need to talk to your husband first before letting just anyone stay in your home to live. Both of you need to be in agreement with any decision being made. Your first priority should be your husband, the one you are married to.
If you husband says you are a great wife, then take that as a good compliment. But, if he sees that you have put people first before his needs, then you may not want to do that again, because now you know what it can cause.
I would consider on getting these two great books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage".
2007-02-21 13:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice that you have made up and if he tells you that you are a great person with a heart of gold listen to him. Sometimes when there are other forces in your life such as sharing your home with someone else other than your immediate family it interferes with your way of life. Let it go honey, he is back and you are together. Love is never smooth.. Go with the flow. Good luck and God bless and put angels on your pillows.
2007-02-21 13:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by fluffyflo_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a good heart to want to help people. Never forget your decision affect the people you love. My impression you need to have consensus between you and your hubby before you act.
It is a good sign your hubby as forgiven you. You have to forgive yourself to allow a full reentry back into the marriage. Just keep the lines of communication open between you and your hubby and these feeling will go away.
Much luck...
2007-02-21 13:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be really stressful and you can't beat yourself up over the tough times - not one says that relationships are perfect! It doesn't sound like what you are describing is either of your faults, just a difference you need to focus on resolving. I hope that he's not the one making you feel bad, because again - you don't deserve it.
2007-02-21 13:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you feel like a bad wife, because you are putting other people (you let people live with you) before your husband. Stop taking care of everyone else, and take care of him, you'll feel better in no time!
2007-02-21 13:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me that you are feling guilty about something. If he said all is forgiving and is happy now then let the fact drop. You can't keep hating yourself for past crimes.. if you do it will burden you and weigh heavy on you.
I know I'm the same way when I think I let others down. And if he really is your world.. then trust him know when he says it's ok.
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2007-02-21 13:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe your problem is that you are putting everyone else first and not him. Your husband should always come first. He is your family now. Do you think this is the reason? I guess I'm at a stand still because your question is lacking some details...
2007-02-21 13:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh darling, please realise that one's partner is not the 'whole world'. Your situation and your emotional state sound too complex to get an immediate answer from this forum. My suggestion would be some counselling for yourself first, then perhaps for the two of you together.
This is your emotional wellbeing you are talking about, please reach out alittle further for help.
2007-02-21 13:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by yutu34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok as a rule dont let no one move in because you need all the time to get to know your husband and he need to get to know you as while also communication is a powerful key in marriage good luck
2007-02-21 13:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋