I've always been insecure about myself and I hate it. I've tried becoming more confident but nothing has worked. Sure, sometimes it feels okay and like the inferiority complex is gone but it keeps coming back to "haunt" me. Like, for intance, yesterday I sent a lot of messages to different classmates regarding a class outing today and nobody replied!!! I know these people regularly check their phones and they must have got the messages. Worse still, it was some of my close friends who didn't reply. I keep feeling like they're all trying to keep me out of the loop and it really hurts.
Is it just my inferiority complex that's making me feel like everyone's against me? Or am I right in suspecting that there's something going on?
2007-02-21 13:09:29 · 3 answers · asked by Liz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forget for a moment that there is anyone in your peer group who is "better" or "worse" than you; think of yourself as a Unique individual with a unique style and qualities that will take you far in the world; believe me two weeks after you graduate high school you won't even remember 90% of these people because you will be moving on and up into an adult life;
Look around your community; is there somewhere you can volunteer your time that will make a difference in SOMEONE ELSE'S life so that YOUR time will be about THEM and not about YOU? If there is grab the opportunity. It will not only look great on your resume when you go out for that first job, or apply for college, but you will feel like a real worthwhile human being.
Remember, life isn't about ME, it is about moving on and hopefully into a better place than you are today.
Good luck to you. I think you are special.
2007-02-21 13:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about the lack of email replies. Most people don't want to commit to something if you get an invite well ahead of time (that evite web site for example has the same problem). As for your feeling of self-worth, it couldn't hurt to find a group of people that feel like you do to sit and talk with. For example, look for community groups through local clinics, YMCA etc. to see if there is a group to join.
Everyone feels insecure about things some of the time. The trick is not to dwell on those feelings. If you focus on your own principles (how you treat others, what you enjoy, who you love, etc.), you shouldn't worry what other people think of you. The true friends will surface in time...and stick around no matter what.
2007-02-21 21:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by sci55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't give you a reasonable answer but i am old and had this problem for a lifetime. however i can tell you one thing i know from experience and that this problem feeds on itself.i became a semi recluse and have no complaints now
2007-02-21 21:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋