Why do people divorce?

Question

I thought people were supposed to be mature enough to work out any problem be it the perceived problem of sex with other people, being treated like crap, etc.

When people get curious and decide to have some fun on the side why does it have to end in divorce? Shouldn't adults be smart enough to include each other in these sex fantasies or realities?

But no, people will do the dumb move and end up in financial ruin.

If you made the mistake of marriage, at least you should be able to negotiate a few deals every now and then to keep things interesting without having to resort to divorce. Think about it. When you promise each other your entire lifetime, do you think that you will not get bored with each other after 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years.

Tell me what deals you have negotiated with your significant other throughout your marriage. All responses are welcome.

Answer 1

You have a point here. People negotiate for a lot of the things they want in life. Jobs, cars, customers, accounts, etc. Why should having a little fun be any different.

Become a salesman and negotiate yourself a great life with your wife! I like that idea.

Answer 2

I'm not much of a religious fanatic but isn't that what Eve did when she took fruit from the forbidden tree?

Marriage is a union of love and faith not fulfillment of sexual curiousities or unnatural desires.

If one woman isn't enough for you I think there is a place in the midwest for you that allows for more than one spouse . . . try there (they might not be into the weird sex either though - no matter how many wives you take).

Answer 3

People get divorced for many reasons these days..some stem from money, cheating, goal changes, or children. With an exception of abuse...all couples should try to salvage their marriage. If they do not come to a conclusion then divorce but let it be the last option not the only option.

Answer 4

but it's not much of a marriage if you took your vows to love only each other, and be faithful to each other and then cheat on them. I beileve if you truly love your spouse, you won't have to worry about making those mistakes. Believe me, I don't agree with a lot of divorces, but I don't believe in forgiveness if an affair is discovered because that obviously shows that the true love was one sided.

Answer 5

i had to divorce to save my mental health. If i were still married right now, i can tell you id probably be on meds for depression and anxiety. Im glad it didnt work out, now i have somebody that i will be with forever, through thick and thin, ive learned a hard lesson and i value very much the sanctity of marriage now.

Answer 6

Sometimes there is no choice but to divorce. In my case it was a morals issue. I found out AFTER we got married that he liked kiddie porn and he liked adult porn in excessive amounts. So excessive that he could NEVER perform unless he was looking at porn prior to him trying to have sex. Needless to say the marriage was never consummated because of inability. He also got hooked (again) to drugs and alcohol and was mixing it with his Effexor. Because of that and the fact he got caught looking at kiddie porn, he turned violent. He is violent at work and was to me at home. I lost all respect for him the day I saw him looking at kids. He begged for chances, but the trust was also lost as he was continually lying to me. The only deals I will be negotiating with him, will be through my lawyer.

Answer 7

Actors divorce: its all money. Pay less taxes. split the cost, more money they make, more liability they have. so they divorce. Equal shares. no money exchanged. George Clooney, Ben Affleck all of them. its all for paper.
legality.

Answer 8

They don't want to compromise or don't want to work through tough problems with the help of a spouse. They create unharmonious relationships that are unbearable.

Answer 9

that's normal..things happen n people changes..sometimes it's just faith...we cant say much because we never know what's in people heart...if only we knew....