My real life Example: I feel that joining that Navy was a Huge Big and perpetual mistake, but the Job Detailers at MEPS got me to enlist under false pretenses.
I admit, I did make a huge life error, but I am bouncing back from this mistake. Also, if they were truthful with me, I likely would not have enlisted in the first place. It was a mistake, I wish I didn't make.
Example of other people's mistakes; People getting married to the completely wrong person. They knew they were getting into, then the person they married lied about something big.
2007-02-21 12:54:22 · 4 answers · asked by InTROLLigent 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
"Fool me once, Shame on you. Fool me twice, you will never fool me again!" - President George W. Bush
2007-02-21 12:55:58 · update #1
From the Rules for Being Human: "there are no mistakes in life, only lessons".
Ask yourself if blaming will help you to move on. You are "bouncing back from this mistake". What is the payoff for you from blaming?
Does it actually make you feel better for more than the moment? Does it really help you to prevent similar lies being told to others?
You can notice the effect (on you) of lying and consider how you feel about yourself making consistently, in your own life, the choices of telling the truth or silence.
2007-02-22 01:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by MBK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you were given a false impression of the Navy, but you bought into it, so I suspect one cancels out the other here. As to it being the monumental mistake of your life, I doubt that because I think the biggest mistake you are making right now is in cultivating such a negative attitude to what has the potential to be a truly wonderful experience. I suspect you are a fairly new recruit and pretty low on the totem pole, and your comments are not unusual if this is the case. AS to your question; to attach blame is to discredit and belittle someone. A mature way to handle the situation would be to say nothing or offer a well thought out alternative way to do it next time ( I'm not talking about the example you give here) A person who has made a mistake knows full well they screwed up, by suggesting (teaching) them how to do it better, you make them better, and you gain a whole lot of respect from that person. In the military, this works well even with superiors, provided your solution is extremely well though out and tactfully delivered. Just beaking off will end you in the brig, even if you are right.
2007-02-21 21:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to grow up,you made the choice to join the Navy,recruiters always tell lies to get their quota of recruits but they can't force you to sign on the dotted line.The truth is you didn't do your homework,you are to blame for the predicament you are in.I suggest you change your attitude and try to make something positive out of this or you will punish yourself by making your enlistment seem an eternity.
2007-02-21 21:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will tell you the same thing I tell my kids when the sign up for something:
"After you finish, you never have to do it again, but you signed on, so learn and grow while you are fulfilling your commitment."
Even in marriage, I expect them to be the best partner they are capable of until the point when they are no longer partners.
It's not healthy to blame. You're giving others the power to define your limitations.
Good luck
2007-02-22 01:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋