i liked this guy. and my friend knew about it. she promised to talk to him for me. but she didnt. instead when she had a party she invited him and made out with him! now she apologizes for it, but i dont think i can trust her anymore. should i just ignore her, or forgive her?
2007-02-21 12:53:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
+ she never said he liked him or anything.
so it was a huge shock for me!
+ after the party she seemed very happy too
2007-02-21 13:15:47 · update #1
she told be about what happened between the two of them herself :|
2007-02-21 13:19:27 · update #2
I think that you should forgive her, but maybe let her know that you find it a little hard to trust her and that it may take a while to gain it back.
2007-02-21 12:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by [[Abby]] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your relationship with her. Is she a good friend besides what she did? Was it a fluke? Can you ever trust her again? Sometimes, it's hard to stop when you are attracted to the guy. Does the guy like you? It doesn't seem to be as important if you are crushing on someone that doesn't have the same feelings for you? Why break up a friendship over some guy? I would forgive only if she was really sorry for what she did and if the relationship was worth saving. At least she didn't sleep with him.
2007-02-21 21:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first I would like to say that I am sorry you had to go through that.
But, I strongly feel you should forgive her. I know your relationship may never be the same, but still forgive her. You don't have to ask her for any help concerning any guys or invite her anywhere for a while. Please understand, though, that you could have talked to this guy yourself. You put her in a situation where he could have figured since she was brave enough to step to him, he could get laid by her. And it was so. So don't put her down too hard, but don't let her off the hook that easily. Hopefully you can understand what I am trying to say.
I hope one day you and her can sort the differences and you be able to trust her again. For now, just wait it out.
2007-02-21 21:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by little mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people would say "Never let a man come between you are your female friend."
Some would say "Never let your friend come between you and your man."
But, this guy is NOT your man.
And although your friend knew that you liked him, and she was supposed to hook yall up, but she wound up kissing him (instead of you), it don't matter. There are plenty of men in this world, go find another. And there are also plenty of other female friends in this world, I suggest going to find another one of them as well!
Forget about them BOTH.
No, you cannot trust your female friend anymore! Drop her!
Good Luck
2007-02-21 21:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you should talk to your friend about it. if she had liked this boy way before you even thought about him, then she kind of has the upper hand. but, if she did it out of spite or for a fling, then she's wrong. it's all about how much you're willing to forgive, amd if you can put it behind you and be friends again
2007-02-21 21:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by boo slick 54 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend would not do that to another friend. Forgive her, but find new friends...this one can't be trusted
2007-02-21 20:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is rather selfish. There will be a 2nd time that she will do it again. Forgive her but hv her out of your life for good.
2007-02-22 13:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Miko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not a real friend. why would a REAL friend do that!? i feel bad for you! confront her. and,if it works sometimes, threaten her. like, if she doesn't have any other friends but you, tell her to lay off. or, if she confides in you something utterly embarassing, embarass her. give her a taste of her own medicine. because that isn't right for soemone to do that.
2007-02-27 22:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by t-dog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her ,some girls are just like that -next time you have a crush you should be the one to tell them dont leave it to a friend .
2007-02-21 20:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by tiffanyh2323 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl if i were you i would say my mind to her the same thing happend to me and i just told her if she was going to keep it up i didnt want her friendship and if she wants to be your friend sure if its the first time shes doen this and just if she does it again its over good luck
2007-02-21 20:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋