I work overseas and stay months away from home. My wife lately loves to go out for 'tea', karioki, bars with her girlfriends and some male companions. My friends are concerned about this as she is seen out after mid night some times. When I ask her about it on phone she says she got tired of staying the house and just being a mum, she wants a life too, as for the guys she hangs with, they are just friends. There is this guy that visits our home, she admits he does but says his just a friend. Do you think she is cheating on me and what do u suggest I do?.
2007-02-21 12:29:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if it walks like a duck & quacks like a duck...it probably is a duck ---lay it on the line and tell her how you feel-- tell her to be honest with you
2007-02-21 12:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she seems like the faithful type then maybe you could trust her. Why don't you see if some of your buddies would go out and watch to see what she acts like when she's out. If they aren't sure then give her benefit of the doubt. But if they are seeing that she is hanging all over other guys and stuff then well...I guess I would confront her. Most people have picture phones these days. If you think you can trust your friends then ask them to do this for you. It's hard when youre not home all the time. And it's lonely. In a way ya can't blame her. On the other hand I guess if she knew the job you had was going to do this then she should have decided it then. Talk to her and see if she wants a divorce so that she can be happy. There is such a thing as a friendly divorce. If you don't wanna see her unhappy and you don't want her to cheat then maybe you should talk to her about it and see what she says. That's a tough one. Maybe you can get a job that is more around home instead of overseas. It's a thought. If she's worth it you should really give this a lot of consideration. Good luck.
2007-02-21 12:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by Me2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't really mean she is cheating....But I can tell you that I personally would have a problem with it....the same as my wife would have a problem with me going out while she was away and me having women over who are "just friends". The one thing I would tell her is that you really do not like the fact that this guy comes over to your home. Maybe try telling her in a way that will not make her feel that you do not trust her. You could say something like..." You know I really worry about you here with that guy when I am not around...I would hate for something to happen to you and you just never know about people nowadays"
As for the bar thingy....well if she is just going out once in a while I am sure its just to get out of the house and have some "adult time" with friends. Especially if you have young kids at home and she does not have adult conversation all week with you gone.
Best of luck
2007-02-21 12:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally dont think she is cheating and if anything when you call her instead of asking her about all her male friends you should tell her you love her and miss being with her. As a female myself sweety when guys tend to make a big deal about other guys around there women, we tend to get tired of hearing it and feel like we arent being trusted. I mean dont get me wrong there are ALOT of women out there who actually do cheat on there spouse when they are away for a long period of time and there are some who arent cheating. If you truly feel as though she is cheating you should hire somebody professionally and have this person just to watch her when she goes out with these guys and girls and have them video tape it, you can either be surprised that your gut feeling told you she was cheating or you can be surprised to see your spouse just having fun being out of the house. I hope this helps you out and good luck
2007-02-21 15:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately tell him. he would be disillusioned yet he could additionally marvel you. have self assurance it or no longer .... he likely cheated on you at an analogous time as he became distant places. I take it he's interior the service. i became interior the service additionally. photograph being in a annoying concern day by day. on my own including your ideas and emotions. Then sooner or later an possibility to proportion thoughts with a individual of the alternative intercourse arises. speaking turns to touching. Touching turns to kissing. Kissing turns to lovemaking. Then for a small time you no longer experience lonely. do no longer tell HIM until eventually he's OUT OF THE service OR until eventually he's abode FOR sturdy...in any different case your adulterous habit could desire to keep away from his sparkling thinking and get him killed if he's in a warfare zone.
2016-09-29 10:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already no the answer to that don't you,you are just waiting for someone to say something to convenes you other wise. I myself have gone through what you are going through now.I did not want to believe my husband would cheat on me. Not only did he cheat on me he move out and got his own apartment just to be with her.It's a hard thing to go through and to deal with specially if your away from home .
2007-02-21 13:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok her going out with groups of friends sounds pretty harmless however the guy coming over to the house sounds like trouble.
I am married and a mother of two and like to go out with my girfriends and we sometimes stay out rather late...but we aren't doing anything disrespectful to our husbands and we don't go to clubs. Of course I don't have any male friends either.
I would be seriously worried about the man coming over to the house. He has no reason to be there.
2007-02-21 12:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were in this marriage I wouldn't cheat because I'd tell you that I was going to have a sex buddy, but I'm in a different kind of marriage I think. Women have needs too!
2007-02-21 13:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know your wife so I can't tell youif she is cheating or not. If you want to know anything about what your wife is doing you have to aks HER, it is up to you whether you trust her or not.
2007-02-21 12:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is probably falling for someone else. He is the fill in guy and she is having sex with him. Your marriage is probably over as who could be alone for months at a time..Sorry..
2007-02-21 12:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋