Ok, So why am I still not really happy??

Question

So what do I do now that I have reached all my goals?

I have one house, two kids, three cars, one wife, one girl friend, a great job (no I'm not rich).

Should I get a 4th car? or a third kid? or a second girlfreind? or maybe trade in my wife??

Any ideas??

Answer 1

You are looking for goal to make you happy. Saying,"I will be happy when this happens." That is not how things are, you need to stop looking for things in the future to make you happy. You should apperciate the thing that are in the here and now. Now is the only time you can be happy, in three days no matter what happens the time will be now. Focus on what you have and the positive side of it. Another thing to keep in mind is that you CANNOT be happy all of the time, if you were the happyness would be meaningless. "The bitter makes the sweet taste even sweeter" to quote someone smarter than myself.

Answer 2

Maybe, your happy when you are working towards a goal, and not so happy when you achieve it, and the work is done. When there is a challenge to overcome, we get a rush. We have to think creatively, intelligently, constructively. All our skills and talents come alive. Our minds open fully and we improve our abilities, appearances, mannerisms to the max. Once we have succeeded to the ultimate high and our goal is reached, the excitement fades and we go back to our normal places in life. If you can master all of these goals, you can learn to master a simple mindless thing, such as relaxing. Pamper yourself, make yourself comfortable, enjoy a meal, music, a glass of wine, find someone or something that makes you laugh, and laugh hard. Oh, the chase is fun and exciting, but you don't have to work at taking care of the entire world all the time, Superman! Let loose and screw up abit, act immature, but do it innocently, and not calculating. Remember what it was like to be a kid or a teenager, skinny dip at night and then lie on a blanket, and look up at the stars. Meet someone who enjoys life and you will learn from them. If you can't do it then start to practise once in a while. Go on a trip that isn't planned, to a place no ones even heard of, and you will discover another way of life, thru the eyes of someone else. Meet people along your way, ask questions and learn about their lives. Get a part-time job for awhile where no one knows you, as a dishwasher in the kitchen of a busy restaurant, owned by a grumpy old person. Work at it hard as if your life depended on it and at the end of the night sit back with the other staff and enjoy a cigarette and a cup of coffee.Stay in a little house where the roof leaks when it rains and you have to cuddle under the quilt to stay warm. Have someone read from abook to you as you close your eyes to go to sleep, ( and not one that you pick out either)! I believe you are a great man with the drive and ablility to build a mountain, but you already know that, so break out of all that for abit, and see life thru other peoples eyes. You will attain more than you think.

Answer 3

How do you weigh success? Do you weigh it by the trophies (materials) you have? I am guessing you to be a very insecure person who needs to be reassured about yourself which is why you are having an affair or are not happy. Why is your wife not enough for you? What is that deep desire within you that is keeping you from being content or happy? Explore that feeling more and try to figure out where it comes from and why you have it. Try to appreciate all the very little things in life and dont compare yourself to others. Get real with who and what you really want!Maybe you really are happy but you are comparing yourself to something that is unrealistic. Talk to your wife and try to get back on the same page with her, if you have grown too far apart try to mend things slowly. If you trade in your wife, it does not mean life will automatically get better, it could turn much worth with custody battles, child support and affairs that become known. Kids caught in the middle could grow to resent you and if you love and value your kids, you will soon become much more unhappy as things unfold. Weigh all your choices and happiness carefully!

Answer 4

The fact that you have a wife AND a girlfriend could have something to do with why you're not happy.

Aside from relationships, maybe you could try volunteering to help the homeless or someone else who doesn't have as much as you do. Helping other people could give you a new goal in life and make you happier.

Answer 5

Seems to me that you are looking for happiness in all the wrong places. You are depending on something (or someone) to make you happy. Its like an empty hole that no matter how hard you try, you can never fill. Are you being fair to your wife and kids (a girlfriend, please)? Are you maybe feeling a bit guilty? You cannot be happy in life until you are happy with yourself. Try praying. Ask God to fill up that empty space. When you realize what you are missing, and accept the gift that He is offering, you will truly find happiness.

Answer 6

Just off the top of my head i would say give up the girlfreind,be faithful to your wife & kids and Try Christ!!

Answer 7

Well , How about your sex life , how about taking a trip , how about not complaining that you aren't happy because you really are.......
If you want more, well really talk with your wife about this, because what you have inside is a kind of deppression believe it or not, maybe you will feel happy and good all the time, but think about you are asking.........

There is more yes, but all with your family

Answer 8

you're not happy because you're a SINNER!!!! Stop cheating on your wife before the Lord takes that one house, three cars, girlfriend, wife, and kids. And that doesn't necessarily mean they will be the ones to go. It could be YOU!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

I don't think getting a car or better wife will do you any good. (Save the fact that you are cheating on your wife...) It sounds more like you have an internal problem than an external one.

Answer 10

you're a smart-aleck, for sure
but, you're also lonely.....and no doubt

i can't help you
if you're not going to be honest

q: do you KNOW anybody who is happy?
--look there for answers

you're afraid to be honest about your own needs
'cause that'd mean you have to acknowledge that your wife has the same
....and you're a little selfish on that front


it'll be ok

compete w/no one
'cept your own bad self

happiness isn't far