Up until about 2 years ago, I was about 50 pounds heavier than I am today. I had decided that I was tired of being borderline obese so I took the neccessary (but healthy) steps to lose weight. It was a very drastic change and a lot of people complimented me and told me how much prettier/better I looked blah blah. I thought I would maybe feel better about myself but it seems to have only made me more self-conscious. I think that every guy who looks at me, wants me. Every single one. Even my married professors. I think that I can see the lust in their eyes. I don't know if I am just being shallow or what... I also worry I am not nearly attractive as I think I am yet people always tells me I am so pretty. Oftentimes I wish I was fat again so people would stop looking at me.
2007-02-21 12:19:32 · 4 answers · asked by asdfg 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The obesity was originally a defense mechanism against the very feelings and thoughts you are now faced with. Realize the self talk that accompanies your self consciousness and dispute it (eg "Not everyone lusts after me"). Also, you could wear clothes that allow you to blend in unprovocatively. A return to obesity will occur unless you learn to live with the more attractive you. You can do it.
2007-02-21 12:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by OTTO 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
i think its because you cannot believe that you can do what you did for such a short period of time, that you have such will power and gusto to do what others think you cannot do and you are not being used to all the accolades that you are getting and you missed all the bad things that you used to have to the point that you miss it. why not give it some more time and soon you will take it for granted and get used to all the flattery you are getting and live with it normally, so you are narcissistic so what!!! you look good anyway!!
2007-02-21 12:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I am fat men look at me When I am thin they don't I swear this is true
2007-02-21 12:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by hobo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it while you may. Don't wish to be too fat, it will return soon enough.
2007-02-21 12:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋