ok i have this friend and she got pregnant by her boyfriend. the only thing is she 13! and her bfs 12! she doesn't want to have an abortion or give the baby away but she is afraid what people will think.
what should she do?
2007-02-21 12:18:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I just turned 17 a few days ago and the biggest part was telling my mom yes she freaked but shes getting over it, granted she is way younger but still her parents love her im sure and the most importnant thing uis for her to be healthy and for that little baby to be healthy as well..sadly with our ages there is an extremely high risk of a miscarriage so she really needs to tell her parents or at least go make na appointment with a doctor and get checked out..and start on vitamins Walgreen has their brand its got the word PRENATAL on the box and It was like 9.99 but yeah she needs to tell someone she trusts if not her parents!
I wish her and baby all the luck in the world!
xo<3xo
2007-02-21 12:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs to tell a responsible adult. She will need medical care for her health and for the baby. She shouldn't try to hide her pregnancy in way. Now a days I don't think people are so shocked to see teen moms. Times have changed. If my daughter was pregnant, or anything important would happen to her, I most certainly would want to know. As a mom I might be disappointed that she made poor choices but I would love her just the same and no less. We all make mistakes in life, it's just how we handle them that separates mature from immature. And in this case, a baby is another life. Your friend also needs to think about the long term. How is she going to support her baby? What about school, it is extremely hard to get a job with out a diploma. How will this affect her socially? It's hard to stay home every weekend when you know that your friends are out having a good time? These questions need to be thought about seriously. Adoption is a great way for a loving couple to have a baby they would call their own. These are people who can't have children and want them.
Encourage your friend to be a good mom and talk to someone asap.
2007-02-21 12:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by squeaky53095 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I will tell my story again. I was 13 years and two weeks when I got my friend pregnant and now I am 17 and have a 3 year old daughter (who I rasie alone as her mother abandonded her). I am well liked in my neighboorhood and the fact I am a teen parent has not caused me too much problems.
When she was pregnant she had a lot of embrassment (she was also 13) but like I always say: Who cares what others think. If she loves her baby thats all that matters.
2007-02-22 10:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I really do hope she has told her parents and by law her parents do have the right to make her give the child up.
I really think your friend needs to think about this ALOT..At 13 your body is nowhere near mature enough to carry a child which is why it can be very dangerous. Being pregnant at such a young age can do a lot of damage such as her miscarrying, her hemmoriging, she may even die. She will likely have the baby early and may be stillborn not to mention the baby has a high risk of being born with a defect or retardation.
If your friend has not seen a doctor yet I would urge her to do so and being so young they are going to want to see her a lot to make sure she is okay.
What your friend did was stupid and very irresponsible and can really do a lot of damage to her and can even kill her.
2007-02-21 12:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! First your friend should tell her parents right away. Having a baby is a HUGE responsibility, and I don't know many 12 or 13 year olds that can handle that. That's the best thing she can do. If she doesn't tell anybody, they will eventually notice when she starts showing. Really, talking to the parents is the best thing.
2007-02-21 12:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally speaking from life experience(I had a baby at sixteen.) I would look in to foster care. It is a wonderful alternative to adoption that allows you to finish high school and still keep in contact with the child. After she finishes high school If she is ready she can have the baby back. There are so many couple willing to foster a baby. the best part about it is you make a connection with the foster parents and you get great friends. What ever she does, I wish her the best!!!
2007-02-21 15:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her biggest concern right now is worrying about what people will think, then she's definitely not old enough to be raising a baby on her own. If you live your life worried about other's opinions then you'll never be happy. A friend of mine got pregnant at 15, they didn't want to deal with anyone's opinions or criticism. So they got married and moved away from their family and town, and did they best they could for themselves. Now they have 6 kids and their own nice house, and everyone respects them even their family.
2007-02-21 12:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I can't get over is how a mom let a 13 year old get pregnant. Boy are they getting younger by the minute?!! And I thought 16/17 was young!
2007-02-21 12:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by the BABY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Home school till after she has the baby if she is ashamed. And have the boy home school as well. I would also have one of the parents adopt the child till she was ready and out of school with a job.
2007-02-23 06:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by stepmom of 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's only 13 - the decision to have the baby or an abortion is not her's to make. She should be extremely afraid of what people will think - she's STUPID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She must immediately tell her parents and then do what ever they tell her to do!!!!!!!! She'll be lucky if they don't hang his butt!
2007-02-21 15:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋