i have been in some relationships where i've been used and cheated on and it seems like when i find a good guy i run them off because i accuse them of using me or planning to hurt me like the other guys did......it's making me look crazy i need advice on how to control that because i've met a very nice guy and my actions are running him off i've accused him of lying all the time this may sound bad but i accused him of lying about his grandfather passing away and he called me from out of town to prove that he was really in his hometown it was the worse voicemail becuase i thought he was lying when he's not...most of these problems i have with him is because he's in the military and my friends stereotype him & don't trust him so they cuss him out when they see him and accuse him of things it's really childish i didn't ask them to do that..he thinks that i'm crazy now.i feel really bad and i want to fix it with him....how can i do that? no rude comments please i just need advice
2007-02-21 12:17:40 · 5 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Just be honnest with the guy. I was in some abusive relationships and when I met my current boyfriend I was a bit of a psycho. I had a really hard time trusting him at first, but I explained what I had been through before and told him not to take my trust issues personally.
He was very understanding and over time I came to trust him very much and we're talking about moving in together.
If you just act crazy and don't explain to that person why then they're going to think your crazy. At least if your honnest they have an idea of where it's comming from and can choose wether or not they can handle the situation.
Only time and meeting good people will help you learn to trust people again. Just remember he's not them, don't accuse him of something somebody elce did to you.
2007-02-21 12:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rhuby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing you should do is make sure that you like yourself...... That was my biggest problem (and why I picked losers!) You deserve a good man. Always remember that. Just take it slow with this guy. If you don't believe him, STOP, and think. Don't accuse right away, put yourself in his place for a moment.
Just try to relax. I think you are nervous about messing up. Don't listen to friends, listen to your heart, it will guide you.
Good luck!
2007-02-21 20:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by ntouchspa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need professional help aka behavior therapy. However, you can help yourself by talking to him openly. However, he doesn't want to be compared to your exes and rightly so. So, don't make excuses. Just tell him you are trying to learn to trust him and that you want to trust him. If you continue to let yourself be broken by your past relationships, they will keep coming up.
2007-02-21 20:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya on that one i just ran one off....and i really luv him and i see him all the time now i cant look him in the face cuz im like damn man how did i mess this up....but gurl just dont accuse them until u kno and see it 4 urself if u see him cheating thats when u need 2 accuse...cuz i believed wat sum people said but ya kno ya cant believe all that **** so u kno imma tell u like this just try not to or u gonna br just like me manless.....lol but im serious.....and i really luv him and he doesnt even kno...i wish i could just go up to him and tell him how i felt about him...but im kinda scared that he will try to play me...and i dont like being played so i just will keep it cool 4 now and maybe 2morrow i will tell him how i feel.....cuz this **** is really annoying and im tired of it....but if ur are going wat i am just do wat im gonna do 2morrow.
2007-02-21 21:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by iluvmickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your jumping to conclusions dear.just because other guys hurt you,that doesnt mean they are all like that.just be yourself and some guy will get turned on by you.they are out there,you just got to look for them.
2007-02-21 20:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋