How long should a married couple wait to have children?

Question

My wife and I are newlyweds and we both want lots of kids. We're in our 20s but don't want to wait too long to start our family. We both feel ready but we've heard a lot of advice that couples shouldn't rush into parenthood. So, how long should a couple wait before having children?

Answer 1

Thye should start having a family when they are both emotionally and financially prepared to become parents.

Answer 2

It's whenever you both are ready to start a family. Some couples have children right after they are married and others wait for a few years.

Answer 3

I would say just save up a good amount of money first. Try to pay all ur depts if u have any. Try not to get in none. Enjoy each other for atleast a year or two. Then get started cause when children comes in play you all wont have time to go out like you would have if children.Hope i helped. Dont worry when i get married i wnat 8 but i wanna enjoy my dude first so i will practice what i preach

Answer 4

Parenthood is a HUGE HUGE HUGE responsibility. As newlyweds, you barely know each other. Get to know each other at a deeper level. Appreciate and take advantage of your freedom. Once you have kids, one or both of you will have to alter your life - mentally and physically. The solid foundation you build prior to kids will help during those moments when life is not so fun (sleepless nights, crying babies, not being able to go out).

Answer 5

If I had it to do over again, I would have waited couple of years, I wouldn't rush if I were you, get to know each other well and be settled in your new lives as a couple. Having children, no matter how badly you want them changes everything; you have to have a strong base already built to weather the change.

Answer 6

In terms of physical health for the mother and the baby, it's better to have kids when the parents are in their 20's than in their 30's.

"It is unfortunately true that simply by being older, a woman has had more chance to develop medical disorders such as diabetes, hypertensive disorders or fibroids, which can affect pregnancy and birth. The incidence of pre-existing conditions rises from 5.5 per cent in the under 29 age group, to 11.8 per cent in the over 35s. Studies on the effect of age on childbirth also report an increase in the frequency of pregnancy complications such as high blood pressure, pregnancy-induced diabetes , bleeding in the third trimester, and low lying placenta The incidence of pregnancy complications rises from 10.43 per cent for women aged 20-29, to 19.29 per cent for women aged between 35 and 39 years. "
http://www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/antenatalhealth/ageandpregnancy/

Answer 7

i had children when i was young and i think its easier to have them in your later 20's or in your 30's because you should be financially set by then and me and my husband were together for almost 2 years before we had our first child but its really not how long your together first but its when you both feel ready and are both committed to having a child , good luck and congrats on your getting married

Answer 8

My advise is to wait 2 to 5 years. You just got married, and you really don't know each other that well. You need to get to know one another and mature together. Then make the decision to have kids. Good Luck

Answer 9

It will happen when it will happen. If everyone waited until they were financially and emotionally ready, then there would be a lot less children in the world.

Answer 10

Wait 2-3 years before you have kids. I love my kids to death but it was so much fun coming and going as we please. Now we find ourselves staying up late after the kids go to sleep just to have time to ourselves, then when the kids wake up early were very tired. So take a few years to enjoy each other.

Answer 11

Try waiting about a year. This way you guys have time to your self. You don't want to rush into anything because then it could end in divorce.