Child Support?

Question

Since when can people decide to negotiate what a parent gets from an absent parent based on what the absent parent THINKS he pays to 2 other parents.... he has 5 kids (3 different mothers) and mine is 3rd in line he is prolonging the hearing so he doesn't have to pay me what the Child support agency sayes he owes me, he is trying to pay as little as possible...although he HIRED a Lawyer c'mon if u can pay him u can pay me right? FYI my child is 7 his last one is 3 mo. old

F.Y.I. We had been together for 8 yrs. prior b4 having my daughter and 1 child was known about , after 5 yrs. another child was discovered to b his. After 2 yrs. of my daughter's life he was a good father spending time and $ as he was supposed to the change happened after i left him to move on b/c after being engaged since 93 our relatrionship wasn't moving FORWARD! thanks for comments even those who were judgemental, but here are the REST of the FACTS!

Answer 1

he's gonna be one-broke-mofo LMAO!! live'n in a tent... you would think at some point he would learn his lesson, and since he has not, he now must pay.

for the record, there is no negotiating with the amount, you owe what you owe. what they do debate is the amount they give to let them out of jail or drop a warrant. if they slap down a chunk of of cash (goes toward the arrears), they'll let him out.

if he can afford an attorney (maybe the attorney is from Legal Aid or working probono), he can afford child support.

if i were you, i would pull rank.

sit down and write a letter. in it give your contact info, your case number, his info (and all of his babys he's been making), and the problem. keep the letter short, its better that way.

then take that ONE letter and FAX IT to the following:
1) your state Attorney General
2) your state Governor
3) your caseworker and their supervisor
4) your Regional FEDERAL Child Support Office.

all links for these are below. if you cant find the fax number, just call them up and ask for it. keep in mind, phone calls are useless; they are ignored, denied, and forgotten. mail ends up in someones "to do" pile, but FAXES ARE EFFECTIVE. its proof you sent it and proof they recieved it. therefor, they HAVE to address it. if you hear nothing in a week, fax it again. fax it weekly if need be.

if they write or call you and tell you they dont 'do this or that', ask them who does. ask for a name. ask what they are doing about it. ask why he is not in jail (yeah, they cant work if in jail, but they dont like it, so it does work). ask why he can afford an attorney but not child support.

keep at 'em. the squeaky wheel gets the oil, always remember that.

also, post HIS DEADBEAT FACE ON A DEADBEAT SITE ONLINE.

here are some links; some you will have to click on your state to find the subject/section you need.

HELP FOR YOU
http://www.petitionspot.com/petitions/collectchildsupport

http://www.womenslaw.org/
http://www.nwlc.org/
http://www.womenslawproject.org/
http://www.nwwlc.org/
http://www.women-law.org/
http://www.hg.org/women.html
http://www.law.com/jsp/nj/specials.jsp?p=contact
http://law-library.rutgers.edu/ilg/njlaw.php
http://www.aclu.org/womensrights/index.html
http://www.hud.gov/offices/pih/programs/hcv/about/fact_sheet.cfm
http://www.hud.gov/offices/pih/programs/hcv/forms/index.cfm
http://www.hud.gov/offices/pih/pha/contacts/
http://www.singlemoms.org/info/main.htm
http://www.singlemotherresources.com/
http://www.angelfire.com/nj4/njcomputerchick
http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/chapterfind.asp
http://www.mowaa.org/
http://modestneeds.org/
http://freecycle.org/
http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn.nsf
http://www.redcross.org/where/chapts.asp

DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.angelfire.com/creep/deadbeatparentssuck/
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm
www.goodparentspay.com

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATORS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html

LAWS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/unpaid-support/support-orders-enforcement.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/laypersons.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html

STATS
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/acesstatistics.html

FINDING DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/skiptrace.htm
http://find.intelius.com/search-name.php?ReportType=1&
http://www.discreetdata.com/index.html
http://www.identitycrawler.net/people_search.html
http://www.efindoutthetruth.com/
http://www.peoplefinders.com
http://zabasearch.com/

FED AGENCIES
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml

REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/policybriefs/pb2004-02.html
http://www.ssa.gov/notices/supplemental-security-income/


FIND YOUR STATE REPS
http://www.usa.gov/
http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Territories.shtml
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.php

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 2

The father obviously hasn't taken responsibility for his actions. He has 5 kids to three different mothers and you would have thought after the 2nd relationship he would of stopped and called it twice bitten and done something about it. It is not always the woman who do this. I think that he should just own up and pay for his children he brought in the world and take responsbility. If he can afford a lawyer he can afford to pay child support. He obviously has money laudrening around somewhere. Why is he prolonging the hearing. The judge will get sick an tired and not agree to prolong the hearing because it is not in the best interests to the children to have a drawn out hearing which can cause stress on the whole family. There is no way you can negotiate with a parent who is not taking responsibility for his actions the child support agency would be your best bet with collecting through them. The frustration involved is not worth the battle for you.

Answer 3

thats kinda crazy. Im not sure how he could hire a lawyer if he cant or says he cant afford to pay you child support. I tell you what, i know a way you can get a lawyer and legal advice without paying what you would think for a lawyer. Im a member of a service that offers a legal backhand to people like you and me who cant afford to pay lawyers up front. Check out the website, www.prepaidlegal.com. Its legitimate, i use it and i look foreward to using it more if i need to. Watch the video and contact me if you are interested, just trying to help and do a good deed to others who need it.

Answer 4

First off "He" doesn't pay to the parents in a since, he pays for the child. The child I take it was from him and your wife/gf? She has to be the one to file for support or support amendment. Take it to the judge, file and let judge make a ruling. As for him hiring a lawyer, that's a good move on his part, he should make sure he's only paying what the law says, little as possible or not.

Answer 5

With the limited information provided it sounds like the court is the one deciding that the support can be negotiated. I haven't heard of it but when I was divorced in Iowa I was awarded child support from my ex-wife.

Answer 6

doesn't matter what he thinks the courts will decide for him dont take his word for anything make him let the courts decide he sounds like a dead beat dad and the courts now days can handle him the best he will either pay what the court says or he'll go to jail

Answer 7

Well yes, he hired a lawyer, but it is in his best interest to do that. It may cost him more to hire the lawyer in the short term, but if he can get a reduction in support payments then it benefits him to hire the attorney. I'm sorry, this will sound judgmental, but you picked him to be the father of your child.

Answer 8

Sounds like a winner! And having a baby with this man sounded like a good idea..... why? Don't expect much- can't get blood from a turnip.

Answer 9

the guys a player but my god when(((( he has 5 kids (3 different mothers) and mine is 3rd in line )))) you should check out who you breed with better it's not all his fault you should have known he was trash