I just found proof that my wife was really cheating on my, I have suspected it but I was in denile..I just wish she could have told me the truth when I asked her...now I am so very depressed.. I know she is not worth life...but I can't help but think about jumping..I don't know what to do.. so here's the question... who can I get over her.. it is really killing me... ouch.. thanks for your help
2007-02-21 11:34:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry hun, that's horrible. Listen, you need to know that you can be much better then her. You can find someone you might love more then her and won't go off with other guys. This situation is not worth killing yourself. It's so difficult and sad to get over, but you've got to try and face it. Do you have any kids? If you have kids, then you need to take care of them and help them get over the situation. Life has many hard trials and this is just one of them. You've got to step through it. I hope things will get better for you.
2007-02-21 11:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by concretelake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First don't hurt yourself. I know what it is like to
have someone you love go behind your back.
Pray for guidance.
As the months and years go by, you will see how
free you are from this lie. Go out, meet some friends. Don't drink, Dont do drugs.
After you come back down from that activity, you
will find you have an even worse problem. It wont
be easy, but things will be okay. What has an end,
also has a beginning. You owe Yourself that.
I just said a prayer for you. What happens after
that is up to you. Be Good!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-21 19:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by saa932003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are worth more than that. Has she said why shes cheating? people normally cheat because they are looking for something they feel they are lacking in life. If you love each other you will get through this with the help of counselling. Even now a counsellor may help you with what you are feeling.
2007-02-21 19:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by ang_23el 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... get a divorce. You will have closure. Then take time to heal... time is on your side... time is a good friend...it will ease the pain... provided that you busy yourself with activities. There is no time frame on the healing process. It all depends on you. If you hold on this feelign of being hurt, it'll not go away. It is ok to grieve and normal to feel down. Cry if you have to...Remember, this is an opportunity... to thank her because she has set you free... to be loved someday by a woman who will be faithful and devoted to you... take it easy...
2007-02-21 19:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Dadsy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Need to file for divorce, and talk to family, friends, and move forward, keep yourself around positive people, in time your pain will ease and trust will be an issue for awhile, but things will get better and even going to some type of counseling....Wish you well...
2007-02-21 21:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guys point of view............rob............this is sad because there is nothing that anyone can say that will ease your pain.no one is worth hurting yourself over...your hurting now but tomorrow there may be sunlight...i was dumped hard once...i was so much in love with this girl a would have gave my life for her if she would have asked...love is funny rob,one minute its there and you dont have a care in the world...and the next its kicking you in the teeth...any person who will cheat on their spouse is no more that trash...quote me on that...she is not worth you rob...she has shown you that you mean nothing to her...dump her azz on the curb...this will make you feel a little better...she took your trust and threw it out the door...she dont deserve your respect or your love...throw her azz out...then move on...there is a real woman out there with your name on her...she is the one for you ont this cheat...you go find that love rob...be safe...be kind...and i wish you love.......
2007-02-21 19:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by hystericaly_kinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront, see if it's worth giving it another go or not, if yes, get marriage counseling, if not, GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!
she's not the one for you, that doesn't mean there's no one else out there who is!!!
baby you gotta keep your chin up, part of life is getting your heart broken, it makes you wiser and stronger for the next relationship.
count yourself a lucky escape with this one, move on, and look for the one who will love you unconditionally for who you are.
if ever you need to talk, email me.
good luck babe.
xxx
2007-02-21 19:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd pray in a private place. Ask God to show you how to deal with it. Then trust Him for the answer. Suicide is never the answer when someone doesn't love you as much as you love her. Many MANY men have experienced that feeling, and somehow they get through it. Good wishes to you.
2007-02-21 19:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by SaturnMan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go hang out wiht your guy friends. Tell them what happened and basically have a women bashing night. Then file for divorce. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-02-21 19:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by Calvin B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you can get over her believe me i know. i lived it and it took time but i am a better person....and you are too...just harden your heart and then in a few months you can go on but don't jump into anything for a while
2007-02-21 19:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by La Rhonda V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋