i'm not a whore or wat... just a single gal b4 i met this guy... i tot he is a single but then things happened n i found out that he's married... i've been telling him this won't work out but he cant let it go... i cant let it go too... he asked me to stay but he knows i'm still having the thoughts of leaving him... he tried things to make me happy n also things i wanted him to do... in his religion(muslim), he can get up to 4 wives... i know u all would say once a cheater is a cheater but then the truth is if he told me the truth when he gets to know me... things wont be like this now... i would still be a single gal with no probs like this... i nv love a guy like him b4... we r in the asia not in usa etc... it's hard to continue... i also have the same thinking as in married guys are out of bounds... but then when i fall in love with him, i really trusted him as a single guy... i really dun wanna lose him... his frens told me that if we r happy, y not carry on...
2007-02-21 11:22:14 · 2 answers · asked by -LOST- 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but carrying on means a lot of obstacles we have to face...
his wife knows abt my existence coz he had actually told her n his family that he got to know me but later said that we have broken up coz she keep calling me... she still knows that we r together... coz she making small moves to make me back off... i told him abt it... he said dun worry... he can settle the prob... his mum also knows abt it... his brother also has 2 wives... i really dunno how to make him realise tat being with me will only make him stressful... but he just dun care.. all he wants is to be with me... hard to leave him n hard to give it all up when both of us still in love.. is it really true tat we cant be together???? if i continue to be with him, am i selfish???
2007-02-21 11:27:23 · update #1
In Islam, a man can have up to 4 wives. That is right. BUt Muslims are not allowed to date. My husband has another wife besides me, but we kmew about eachother from the start. Your boyfriend is not a good Muslim. He used you, and I'm sure he had no intention of letting his wife know. HE has no respect. You said you loved him as a single guy, but he was never a single guy. He told you a lie, so you cannot trust him. There are other men in the world who would treat you with the respect you deserve.
Ma Salam.
2007-02-21 12:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a seat in front of the mirror and tell yourself what
you just told us and then you will see how foolish this thing
is and when you come to your senses then you will know
to break off this relationship, unless you are also a muslim
and you and him plan on getting married so it will be ligit
in the muslim religion.
2007-02-21 13:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋