ok so my friend wants to kill herself, she says her dad is an alcoholic and beats her and swears and her, and he doesnt care about her, and shes tired of it, she said she might kill herself, and wishes that she can kill her dad, what do i do?
2007-02-21 11:18:28 · 16 answers · asked by californiadudette1991 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
call child protective services of the county where you reside, immediately.
2007-02-21 11:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
CALL SOME ONE. I am not being mean. Your friend needs attention. Call 911, take her to an emergency. At least there she can get the medical help that she needs as well as monitoring. Social Services will also check up on her and get her into a stable environment that could help her dramatically. Do anything, just don't do nothing.
2007-02-21 19:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by Meredith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get helpp fast. She may actually kill herself. This is real stuff. Call the cops for help not against her. Don't let her kill herself whatever you do! I want to help stop a death from happening however I can.
2007-02-21 19:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by tisdale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The seemingly simple solution is to contact your local Dept. of Child and Family Services or a similar state department, or if you're in school, make a guidance counselor or favorite teacher aware of the situation.. In most cases you can report such a situation without giving your name.
However, rarely is there ever a simple solution to a situation involving alcohol and physical/verbal abuse. Before going that route you have to consider the consequences. More than likely your friend will be removed from her father's care. Can she handle that? Sometimes it can be just as psychologically damaging as remaining in the home and continuing to be abused.
If I were you, I'd ask her to tell you honestly how she would deal with the possibility of never seeing her father again. Even though she hates what he does she more than likely loves her dad.
What you have to try to understand is that people in situations like your friend's have very mixed emotions about the person who is abusive to them. You've heard of the love-hate relationship I'm sure. Well that's exactly what it's like. Even the most abusive people have endearing qualities. And alcoholics can be very charming when they want to be.
I guess what I'm cautioning you about is the possibility that your friend may be so fragile and mixed up that if she were to leave her dad she may still feel like she might kill herself. So, while my first suggestion would stop the abuse it may also be more emotionally devastating to her.
All that said, the best advice I can give you is to first be her friend no matter what. She needs you. As her friend (and because you obviously care so much) it's kind of your responsibility to help her because that's what friends do for each other. Now the next bit of advice might make her upset with you, but do it anyway!!! Sometimes true friends have to say or do things that the one they're trying to help will not like, which brings me to...
It would be best, ideal actually, if you could get her to get some counseling. Let her be the one to open up to a guidance counselor or favorite teacher. She may get upset with you because the very idea scares her, because her father scares her. Remember, she knows what he's capable of. Let her get mad and then let her know that it's okay to be scared but that she has to do something to help herself out of the situation. Sure, killing herself would accomplish that, but that's more than a little extreme. It's true that people who say they're going to kill themselves are crying for help. Often they are not taken seriously and then they do try and sometimes succeed in killing themselves. D0 they really want to succeed? No, it's just that no one paid attention when they talked about doing it, so the attempt is a louder cry for help.
Remind her that she has a whole lifetime ahead of her...dating, prom, college, career, marriage, children, travel, friendship...she can have it all. All of that is more than worth how hard it will be for her to take the first step toward helping herself. The answer is not killing herself; that option leaves no second chance. But helping herself to make her life bearable again no matter how hard that is leaves her unlimited options. Right now she needs to choose life, the good and the bad, and decide she doesn't need that bad.
Remind her how much you value her friendship. Get her to try imagining the two of you in 5, 10, 15 years and you're still best friends...dating, college, marriage, children. What great things to share.
You are a very good friend, wanting to help. I commend you. When you didn't know what to do you asked a question. That's all you have to do in life when you're not sure...look for the answer wherever you may find it.
Which is not to say that I have everything figured out. Your friend's is a very difficult situation to solve in this type of forum. What I'm trying to do is lead you in the right direction. So hold off on the Dept of Child & Family Svc for now. If you can't make her see that she needs to talk to someone who can help her, then as I said earlier, you do it and get some advice...but this needs to happen very soon. Someone who can help needs to know she's thinking of suicide.
Please talk to her as soon as possible, at least within 24 hrs. Urge her to get help immediately. If she refuses, it's up to you to speak up for her...immediately...I mean tomorrow!!! She's telling you she's had it and either doesn't know what to do or is too afraid to do it.
Be there for her even if she gets very angry. She'll be thanking you once she realizes you've done her a very big favor...might say you saved her life!!!!
My heart goes out to both of you...tough road ahead but if you do it together it's just a little more bearable.
Be well and be strong.
A
2007-02-21 20:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ann F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to go to someone for help leave the house and live with someone like a close relative ...u cant sit in a bad situation like that and defiantly if it makes u feel the need to kill yourself.ask for help
2007-02-21 19:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nothing else, call the police department and tell them about it. They'll check out any domestic abuse she might be going through, and she can get a counselor to work out her problems.
2007-02-21 19:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Joel V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest councilling!! Its obviously serious, so try to get her to see a professional. She must be comfortable talking to you and she would probably need your support, so be with her as much as you can and take her to councilling. Sit in with her if that would make her happier, but things like that CANT be left alone!!
2007-02-21 19:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Embrisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to report this to the authorities tonight so they can investigate..if you know about this you are responsible to report this..Tell them everything you have been told.Please report this before anything else happens..who cares if she gets mad she'll get over it and probaly even thank you...
2007-02-21 19:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by AlphaFeGreatWhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her out of there. Its not good for her and she is probably serious about the suicide. If you complain to the police, nothing will happen.
2007-02-21 19:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by aysha a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frist if some one is talking about suicide take them seriously very tell some one anyone you trust and get her some help.
2007-02-21 19:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Tara143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋