I've a friend who's just broken up with her boyfriend. She's taking it really rough. Quite simply, how can I try and make her feel better- or at least take her mind off these matters for a while? I don't want to patronise her, but I really want her to feel to better about things. Any suggestions?
2007-02-21 11:14:16 · 15 answers · asked by Jim 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
~ jbreckmckye
~ My advice would be for you to take her to church with you...
~ Have her meet with one of the Pastor's wives, and ask for prayer/councilling...
~ Provide her with scriptures of comfort and healing...
~ Do not let her drink alcohol (depression) nor use any of your prozac... lo-dose or not...
~ Just be there for her as best you can...
~ She is vunerable right now... so she needs time... needs spiritual guidance... You appear to be her "light", so get her to your local Calvary Chapel or Baptist church for some Bible teaching and mentoring...
~~~ Be careful of your 'alterior motives', jbreckmckye... Do not use her ... nor abuse her... hear?! Jesus IS watching... He knows your heart.
2007-02-21 12:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by James N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a sleepover. Grab some junk food a couple of DVDs (not the lovey dovey ones). Jump into your PJ's close the curtains and cuddle under a blanket and just be together. To the other extreme going for a walk in the woods, beach etc is really helpful. But ultimately every girl loves to shop! Let her moan her guts out so she realises all the pent up energy and feelings tehn she can move on. Oh and don't say you understand because in her mind - you never will.
2007-02-21 11:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep being her Friend and let her know you're always around if she wants to talk about anything. And, you both can go to the movies and plan fun activities that are constructive so she won't have her mind on the break up as much until she is over the hard time. Have her meet new friends or introduce her to one of your friends she doesn't know already and plan more things, and a party maybe.
Good luck and just continue to be THERE for your Friend.
2007-02-21 11:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her room and don't tell her things will be ok. At the moment nothing seems like it will be ok even when you know they will.
A loss like that can only get better with time. If you two have gym passes you should ask her to go with you and take a class or just keep her busy while it gets easier for her.
2007-02-21 11:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by dodgergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out for a day in the nearest city and go shopping, site-seeing, to dinner...etc.
hopefully, she will see how much fun she can still have and also that the world is still spinning even though she is sad...which should help her see that she can move on!
also, when/if you talk with her about it, remind her that she and the ex aren't together for a REASON. make her see that she is wasting time by being sad...he wasn't the right man for her and now she knows and can move on and find her Mr. Right!
best of luck!
2007-02-21 11:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sofia Aleka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 10:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you are there for her, and offer to take her out to dinner, go shopping, to a movie, etc. Something to help you guys reconnect. I'm sure she's hurting right now, and probably just knowing that someone is willing to listen with judging will mean a lot to her.
2007-02-21 11:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is COMPLETELY torn apart about this, then the only thing that you can do is be there for her. but if shes just normal messed up then take her and a few friends out for a spa day or a day at the beach (live in cali, hot here now so..) or take her to an arcade.
2007-02-21 11:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by Candy!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do something the two of you enjoy doing. Let her decide if she wants to talk about it or not. Just try and have a good time.
2007-02-21 11:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by Rhuby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guys point of view............j breck............im going to take it for granted that you a male,by your name...there are very few guys that are friends with girls...i dont mean boy-friends...an honest to goodness, ill listen to you and hear what you have to say and help you work through it type friend...this is what she needs...she needs you to hear her cries,her wants and needs.her sorrow...as i was saying there are very few guys who want to be a friend to a girl...they always want something else, or omre than what she wants to give...takeing her and just holding her will probally be the best thing you could do...this will show you are offering her some security...a sholder to cry on so to speak...she needs this...dont get any ideas.cause you WILL loose your friend...just be there for her if she wants to unload her thoughts or problems...be safe...be kind...and i wish you love.......
2007-02-21 11:37:16 · answer #10 · answered by hystericaly_kinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋