I feel hurt that I have to make a big decision to leave my whole foster family alone for the rest of my life, even though I love & care for my foster mom, but the whole family, including her don't like me & I'm tired of them mentally, psychologically, physically, & emotionally abusing me. The things that they've done to me is torture. I just came to visit for Mardi Gras, & we got into a BIG argument today that made me just make the decision to cut them out of my life because it's psychologically unhealthy for me, & I keep having unwanted flashbacks about the abuse I've been through, & dealing with these people, they will either drive me to the crazy house or drive me to suicide. These people act very mean to me, my foster mom stole my Social Security backpay & trust fund beneficiary check money from my biological parents, & she sets her family up to beat me up, & she's always yelling @ me. I'm 23 yrs. old with a college degree, & she doesn't treat me like an adult.
2007-02-21 10:52:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You know what u didn't they did.U know they don't even deserve the name mom n dad even if they r foster freaks.U n many others in other families r treated badly.It's cruel mean,sad n not fare for u never asked to b here.I think u r better off without them.They r not parents.Parents love there children n don't purposely hurt them.They r sick people.You r older now.Your n adult n can start living your own life.Make your own life and u can also have your own family n learn to forgive but not ever forget.U never have to friends with these people but u can't carry around the anger either.I would suggest getting some counselling and leave them totally.I hope it really works for you.I am sorry that u have had to even experience this but u lived through it n u r stronger now.Plz u r so young and can have a wonderful life but it's all up to u.Good luck n bye 4 now.
2007-02-21 11:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a VERY unhealthy environment. Turn the other way and never go back. Some people are not meant to be parents.
I give you a lot credit of being able to get your college degree. That requires focus and dedication. You had the focus, even through all that stress.
Just think of what you will be able to accomplish once you get rid of anything toxic in your life. (especially the foster parents)
You go girl!
2007-02-21 18:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you desperately need a family to have even considered going back there for Mardi gras.
They, I am sorry to say are not your family. They took you in long ago for the wrong reason and are dogs from hell.They don't even have a conscience.
There are so many truly loving people in this world and you will find them and eventually be happy. Stay away from them, do not leave a forwarding address.
2007-02-21 19:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it seems to me as if the terms have always been bad. Don't worry, you're an adult so just handle things in a manner in which an adult would. If you ask me, you're being very respectful by coming to visit, but if you were being treated poorly, I wouldn't have visited. As far as her stealing money from you and your biological, you might want to take legal action if this just occurred. I wouldn't say it's ending in bad terms, I would say you're beginning a new life, no stress, no abuse! Smile!
2007-02-21 19:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Nessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's start here: Matthew 5:43-48 - some people are difficult to love.
Continue here: It is unlikely that they will change. Who they are is who they will be until they die, even if you were able to present persuasive evidence that they should act differently.
Here's the good news: Their behavior is not your problem. You have the choice to be with good people who will love you for who you are. They are out there. It is your choice to go find them. Focus on the good in people and the unloving behavior will fade over time. You can still love them, but remember that it won't be easy.
2007-02-21 19:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really am sorry to know that... you need to be surrounded with people who are possitive and will give you beautiful memories. It takes great courage to come out and admit these feelings. I know that you feel eternally grateful to them for all reasons... good and bad but you need to make a decision. Stealling you SS and trust fund is another thing. That is a federal crime. Act accordingly and stick with what you decide. Becareful as it may require things that you would need to sacrifice.
2007-02-21 19:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dadsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen if this what you think you should do then go ahead and do it you know that nobody should live through any of thoses things is just unfair that you are. eventualy they will be looking for you. maybe they treat you like this cause you are not part of their blood. Is jealousy thats all but i do understand that jealousy can bring poeple to hurt others that only wish for the best for others it is a shame!!! But if getting away from them is the best than let them fly away and do your own family. trust me you will find happiness!!GOOD LUCK!!
2007-02-21 18:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously a strong woman. Break the ties. Anyone who abuses you in anyway is wrong. It is never ok. You do not need that in your life. You can make friends that will be your family. You will meet a great man hopefully (please don't choose the abusive route) that you can join with his family. Go make you own family. It will hurt. Anyone who loves you, will not hurt you. Remember that.
2007-02-21 19:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive them because unforgiveness will only eat away at you mentally and physically but remember this:
There are people that will add or multiply into your life. Keep them, hold onto them.
There are people that will subtract or divide into your life. Keep them at arms length or totally away from you.
You are old enough to be on your own at 23, so make your decision and do it.
2007-02-21 19:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by rugbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better get a lawyer now because that is against the law Good Luck go live on your own soon ok and good luck.... Why don't you get a hold of your bilogical p[areints and see if you can get that money for yourself you are old enought for you to revcieve that.
2007-02-21 18:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by j13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋