2007-02-21 10:13:34 · 10 answers · asked by Jessie Jo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is because his body is craving the nicotine. Nicotine is an addictive substance. His body is dependant upon the Nicotine. This will pass you just have to be patient and understanding...
2007-02-21 10:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a recovering smoker I would say that he is weak! Don't let him bring you down as a matter of fact to test his weakness tell him that you want him to smoke again. See what he does and it would give you a very good look at what you want to get married to. I have had cigarettes flashed in my face for the past week. There are people that smoke at my job and I work a whole lot. I have been on this journey for my husband and unborn child for two months now. Since I knew I was pregnant I stopped and I have an incentive to stop. You see he is just stopping for you not for himself but for you and this is frustrating him. You should not pressure him to do anything especially an addiction. Try the patches although I'm Doing it naturally.
2007-02-21 10:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband made a wise choice in stopping together. I've done it successfully with my wife. The thing is, what you have taken on is stopping an addiction, which is a radical choice. Now you have a situation where two different people are dealing with a challenge in two different ways. Your husband is picking fights with you not because he wants to fight. It's addiction causing him to make something happen (the fight) that justifies his smoking. It's not really his fault until he is informed and accepts the fact that it's part of his addictive behavior. He needs to be made aware of how the mind will convince the person to do something outside of his normal nature to achieve its goal. Yes his mind has a goal...it thinks it needs to smoke. It makes him decide to do whatever is necessary to justify picking up and firing up that cigarette. You don't see that because the addiction didn't get control of your mind as serious as his did. Hang in there...it's worth all the hell you will go through to be free once again from smoking.
2007-02-21 11:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by normansbro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me quitting cigarettes is extremely hard. I have been without them for four months now, and I still think of them, but my determination helps me to stay away from smoking. (And my reason for quitting was my boyfriend)
If you love him and want him to stop picking up fights in order to have an excuse to smoke, then ask him if he really wants to stop smoking, for it sounds like he is doing it for the wrong reasons. If you accept his truth, then there is nothing to worry. But if the smoking is a strong issue within you, then you are the one who has to make a decision about the whole issue. I honestly think that he does not want to stop smoking. I just hope that he does not loose you because of the smoking.
2007-02-21 10:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I want to commend you on quitting smoking..I know personally how hard it can be. He probley does not want to feel he let you down..or himself. He probley did want to quit but like alot of people once we start something it is not exactly what we want it to be so we decide to start again. Only this time he can not with you there reminding him that he failed. He will do one of two things..he will quit for himself and be strong about it or he will start smoking behind your back or if you tolerate it.. in front of you. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but the decision is his..he has to put forth the effort to stop and quit making excuses to support something that he does not need. Good luck!
2007-02-21 10:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad. I'd use his smoking as an excuse to leave unless he either quits smoking, or stops picking fights with you so he can smoke. Why don't you give him an ultimatum. Either you go, the cigarettes go, or his argueing goes.
2007-02-21 10:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The PHYSICAL addiction is gone within a week. Obviously, he was not committed to quitting, and is using you as an excuse.
Not much you can do about it until he sets his mind to quitting & sticks with it.
But I hope YOU stick with it--and huge congrats to you if you do!
2007-02-21 10:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. Good luck with your quitting smoking.
I am now one year sober of sodas and caffeine. Huzzah!
It takes willpower that he seems to lack.
2007-02-21 10:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him the patch.
2007-02-21 10:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need this, stay with him.
2007-02-21 10:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋