I am a 25 year with three kids. Right now i live with my fiance with my three children. We been together for 7 years. Right now i am not happy in this situatuion and i want out but, he brings home the money and i have no job. I do have my medical billing license and bartending. I am thinking to move to Atlanta because in dade county its defintly to expensive for me to make it on my own. I have no family there so thats where the advice come in at because of the children. They can stay in dade until i get on my feet but i really dont want to leave them.
2007-02-21 10:12:18 · 10 answers · asked by nice_n_thick1980 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the fun part of parenthood. You need to put the needs of your children foremost and do whats in the best interest of those kids. Youre those kids mother and you must put them first. If you really truly dont want to leave them then figure out a way to make things work there or a way to take them with you. Remember Atlanta offers you no guarantees either that moving there would be better for all, and do you really think you could live without them even if temporary? Wish you all the best in whatever you choose.
2007-02-21 11:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay then things would get worse if you feel this way. You sound as though you don't love him no more and that is sad. I think that you have gotten caught up too soon in life and now you are seeing all the opportunities that you missed. You haven't missed much I must warn you.
If you feel that you still love your husband then I must urge you to try to make it work. Unless he is abusing you in anyway then you guys have a whole lot of a chance to mend things. But don't stay with a man for two things material things as well as children. Take your kids when you are leaving and allow him to have visitation. Don't take his kids away from him he doesn't deserve that.
2007-02-21 10:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you afford a babysitter? The state might also help you with child care expenses. It's probably best for you and the children if you take them with you, so that they have as much stability as possible. But if you really have to leave them in order to make it, then that is probably what you need to do. Take a hard look at finances and see what is possible. Calculate your future rent costs and figure out what you can spare for child care. Check out your state's website, usually the state followed by .gov, to find out what kind of child care expense help they offer.
2007-02-21 11:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out a way to leave the relationship and take the kids with you. If you really want this...you WILL make it happen.
2007-02-21 10:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Blue EyEs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE tell me you've tried everything possible to work this out. Separating children from either parent is a terrible, terrible thing to do. Plus you've been with this guy for 7 years. There must be SOMETHING you have in common. Have you talked to him about how you're feeling?
I can promise you, becoming a single parent is a horrible ordeal for both parents. Is it really better than whatever you're dealing with in your relationship? Unless you're dealing with abuse or infidelity, I doubt it. Please try counseling.
2007-02-21 10:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by aerin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave them, find a babysitter instead. There are programs that can help with child care while you work. They will be your incentive for you to get up and go to work everyday. Good Luck.
2007-02-21 10:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by maggie209 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you leave you need to take your kids with you so you won't lose them and be charged for abandment and have your fiance pay child support
2007-02-21 10:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So.. you want to leave someone that you haven't married and you want them to give you money?
I've known people like that.
2007-02-21 10:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you are not happy? Things happen in life no matter who your with? Talk to him, tell him how you feel, please comunicate.....Jesus loves you
2007-02-21 10:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youre truly not happy you should leave him
2007-02-21 10:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by Gloom and Doom™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋