When a person has an affair and leaves their spouse because they are not getting enough sex - will getting lots of sex make them happy? What if they lose nearly everything when they leave? Home, financial security, time with their kids, and their relationship with their spouse? Can a new relationship built mainly on sex last? Especially when the new couple can barely make ends meet?
2007-02-21 10:03:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wish my husband was answering this. He had an affair for that exact reason. He didnt leave; he had his cake and ate it, too. But he did get caught. And here is what he said about her. They started out just friends, but between a detiorating marriage her just being there, it happened. She made him happy for the moment. She never said no, she didnt argue with him, she didnt care where he went or who he went with, what time he came home, she was always about the good time. NO relationship stays like that forever. so, no, a relationship will not last on sex alone, no matter how good it is. Just my opinion. cuz when he got caught, he had choices to make, and he didnt choose her, and thats all she was. Tell ya anything?
2007-02-21 11:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have five questiions rolled up here. First, the new couple basing their relationship primarily on sex will last as long as the sex is satisfying to them both. As soon as it subsides, their relationship suffers. Second, what they lose is secondary to them evidently, even though common sense says don't do it...you have too much to lose. Third, their relationships are not as important as their sex lives with each other so that falls into the same category as the second question. Fourth, a new relationship based mainly on sex can last a while, but inevitably must fail, because sex was designed as our expression of love and without real love the sex will fail to gratify. Lastly, outside forces such as financial issues will only hasten the inevitable failure of the relationship if based only on sex.
2007-02-21 18:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by normansbro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important part of a relationship is respect.
a person has an affair because s/he does not respect the spouse. anyone who would jeopardize their relationship with their spouse, and possibly with their kids, losing everything they built together over the years all because of sex, then there is an enormous lack of respect.
i have been married nearly 9 years. i love women. it has been hard to stay faithful, especially during the hard times in the marriage (and every marriage has hard times). however, i love my wife, and i love my kids, and not only am i not stupid enough to risk losing it all over a lay, but i respect my wife enough to not do that to her. she's a wonderful person, a fantastic mother, and i know it would break her heart if i cheated. so why do it? why put her through it? it's not worth it.
can a new relationship built mainly on sex last? yes. so long as you respect each other.
jmho
2007-02-21 18:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by sevasxes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can be the most important aspect to one person and not to another.
Instead of asking us, why not ask your spouse what is most important, and then do everything possible to provide what he/she says is most important.
We get into trouble when we discount our spouses values. When women tell men that marriage is more than sex, or that they shouldn't want sex so much, they are discounting how he feels.
When men tell women that they shouldn't want romance, they are doing the same thing.
Sex can be the most important part for some people, and not for others. Neither is right, it's called personal preference. We are all entitled to different preferences.
2007-02-21 18:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! evidently they do not know what they want,they just changed one bad choice with another, they were missing something in ther life ,probably GOD, unfortunately here again the poor kids are the ones who getting hurt, this person is very selfish only thinking what they want at this time,there is much much more than sex, love companionship trust understanding run do not look back, but you must pray for them and yourself and mostly that GOD will help you and the kids , keep up good work and i will pray for you to receive GODS strength he is here just waiting for you to open the door
2007-02-21 18:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by JAYHAWKER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is one way in which a couple stays intimately connected to each other, not just physically but spiritiually. When you are not having sex, or if you are not connecting on a soul level when you ARE having sex, then you probably will loose that intimate love connection with your spouse. Not getting any sex from your partner can and usually does translate to you either consciously or subconsciously as 'you don't care about me anymore!' Show how much you care about your partner by MAKING LOVE, not just #@#@ing her/him.
2007-02-21 18:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer. Sex may be important but when it is the most important you are in lust, not love. Relationships built on only sex become meaningless after a while. They are very shallow.
2007-02-21 18:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by voodoo man 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex without intimacy will get old..... The cycle of cheating starts over. To me.... sex should be about becoming one with the person you love. Too many people get caught up in the rush of the physical...instead of exploring the depth you can get with one person. The person who leaves their children and family for sex will end up unhappy and void of any real emotion.
2007-02-21 18:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People have affairs because they're selfish and immature....getting a lot of sex has nothing to do with it.
Sex is one of the important parts of a marriage....but not the most important part...honesty is the most important part.
2007-02-21 18:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like you have a high sex drive maybe you need to see a sex therapist to at least control it? sex is a gift from God himself ever wonder why after the sin adam and eve did then they had kids? lol guess sex wasn't important before sin? hmm that's a good question i think im gonna put that up as a question for all lol bye
2007-02-21 18:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋