Why can't I be like other people?

Question

For most of my life it seemed natural that I was always alone and that othere people came first, just the way it always was. Lately I look around though and I'm starting to wonder why I'm not like other people? i mean if everyone is like me (which is what I used to asume) then the world wouldn't work right? Especially the thing about other people coming first, like I've had a few friends but their main friends always come first. it doesn't make sense.

The reason I started noticing was that I got a boyfriend a couple years ago and he was super popular in another town. That's when the idea of acctually having friends became real. i guess I felt like the othere people were like some other species or something. My boyfriend even says I don't do anything really wrong although I am a little clueless.

I'm outgoing and friendly(honest).

Answer 1

Sometimes I feel the same way. I have good friends, but now I'm at college and don't get to see them very often. Here, I don't have any truly good friends yet, because I take a long time to truly get to know people and trust them.

You sound like you're saying you don't have friends, though... that's a lot harder. There are other people like you out there, though, so don't feel like you're the only one! Try to truly connect with a few people close to you, at least. Even those of us who prefer being a lone wolf most of the time should have someone to connect to.

You are the way that you are, though. You don't have to be someone different than who you are to find friends. Just be patient, and eventually you will find someone.

Answer 2

Ok, there's nothing bad about being different. Just continue to be yourself. That's how we all should live. Guarantee there are people out there who only have the lives and friends that they have because they are being a different person around them. Some people even wish that they could be themselves all of the time. Just live your life. Being yourself is the best way to live. It sounds like you have a nice boyfriend who cares about you. Having a lot of close friends isn't exactly the most important thing in the world either. Although social activity is always good. If you want more friends, don't give an act. Be yourself no matter what. If the don't like you the way you are then you don't need them. There are people out there who will appreciate you the way you are. If you need to be a little more outgoing, then do so. But don't change your personality. Just don't think too much. You are just fine. There is nothing wrong with you. Everyone is different when they just be themselves. Remember that. Have a good one, hun, and be happy. SMILE! :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

Answer 3

You are right. If everyone were like one another, the world wouldn't really work. It would be like playing a ball game but have no competition, where everyone plays like everyone else, everyone is the same. There would be no winners or losers and that is not how life is meant to be. Of course there is a balance to it, and that balance is all on you and what you do. You can't be all winner but you can't allow yourself to lose all the time. But I can relate to how you feel, not exactly the same situation, but as for the putting others before yourself part. You are a caring person, but maybe sometimes that could cause you to be too vulnerable and turn you into a pushover. Being alone isn't always a bad thing, but don't isolate yourself because you feel that you can't relate to other people. Socializing is key, communicating is key. That's how you let yourself out and be exposed. Then, you'll be much happier. I was always scared of being alone. Don't get me wrong, I'm independent to the extreme, but its the thought or idea of being alone...thats scary. Don't do that to yourself. First, you have to stop thinking down and negative.

Answer 4

The main thing you need to start doing is looking at what You want, how YOU feel. Be your own best friend First! Stop putting yourself down and start doing things that make you feel good about yourself. Not for someone else but for YOU!!

Not everyone is alike, if we were the world would be a pretty boring place to be! Look at the Good things about yourself and that are in your life. It sounds like your a very caring person but you got to start putting yourself 1st and start thinking about your needs and wants over everyone else. There is nothing wrong with caring and being there for other people but dont put yourself out in the cold and lose yourself in between times.

If you feel like you have lost yourself, now is a good time to bring yourself back or find the person that you want to be and can be if you give yourself a chance. good luck!!

Answer 5

Why don't you reverse the question...

Why can't other people be like me....!!!

Think Positive honey...

This is part of what you were assuming anyway....

It doesn't matter WHO COMES FIRST more than WHO contributes in WHAT that should really count here...

If others are fair, they would actually tend to realize it as such, but since they don't, it could be because of greedness or the like...

They wish to be in the front at all times, but this should not be a reason of discourage to you...

What's your horoscope....I have a feeling you are a SCORPIO..

If this is the case, then you have much of Quality Characteristics that people tend not to realize it,or maybe they do, but wish not to admit it...

One of these days you will draw attention to all so outstandingly, so take it E Z darling, and think forward no matter what...

Get out of the mood others are enforcing on you...It is not you WHO will accept to be DEFEATED...

He who realizes you you would definitely have better eyes to see with, and those who do not realize you need to have better visions to see WHO & WHAT you are all about...

No hard feelings dear, I am at your disposal at all times if you wish, and I surely see in you what others are incapable of seeing..

After all, being alone has its good things in it...

Self realization / actualization / exploration is what you may wish to investigate a little more in yourself...

Remember.... Modesty is also a good quality within you...

So keep it up honey, and take it E Z...

Yours sincerely..

A friend.

Answer 6

dont be too hard on yourelf, im sure youre normal unless u have weirdness diseases(only kidding) or something.if u want a friend just go up to people and be really friendly. eventually theyll like u and start sticking to u. some people might that's dumb and uncool to make friends like that but theyre wrong. friends can come in any shape or size

Answer 7

um i would just say practice in the mirror if you would want to be like other people. Study the way they walk, the way they talk, the way they dress, but don't go to far with it, you might do something you will regret. Don't look obvious!

Answer 8

why would you want to be someone that you are not?

sounds to me that you are a natural at being unique...not different.
thats a big plus, considering there are many claim or try to be someone or something they arent....those are fakes.

got enough liars and fakes and flakes in this world, dont try to add to their numbers, be yourself, be unique, and you will be popular among the bland mediocre wannabees.

Answer 9

some people are leaders-others are followers, and some ppl dont have anyone to lead, or follow. dont worry if ppl arent your friends with u right now u dont want to be their friends anyway, their probably preppies ewww!!!!!!!

Answer 10

some people feel thay way. i think it is all down to your confidence. don't put yourself down. i was in a similar way. but i learned to just enjoy my friends and not worry "who is best friends with whom" :)