My husband and I have not been getting along for some time now, we've been together 3 years now and we have a 10month old son, we have been trying to figure out a way to make thigs better and we both want to work things out but no matter what we just don;t get along, we've talked about separating for a while(not divorce)
I wonder if getting a break and not living together will make things better or worse....so my question is will temporary separation help at all or will it just make it worse?
2007-02-21 09:55:06 · 7 answers · asked by liz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It worked for my friend. She and her husband separated, and then about a month later, began dating. They managed to rekindle what they had forgotten had brought them together. They are still together today. This was about 3 years ago.
I would definately suggest u try it. Try anything u think may help.
Divorce would be my last resort.
Marriage counciling would be my second suggestion. Or perhaps while separated, see a counciler.
I wish u luck. I hope it works for u.
2007-02-21 10:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this....if your hair is long....go in the bathroom right now and cut off half of it....if your hair is short, go in the bathroom and shave half your head.....how's that work for you?
My point is, is that you would never go for half a haircut....so why do this "seperation" thing where you're not together but still married??? Sounds like a "halfway" deal to me.....
You need to change your mindset....go pick up two copies of "Proper care and feeding of marriage". Both of you read it, and highlight the things in the book you are going to DO for the other person (not things you want from the other person).....
Stop thinking about what you want from him and start thinking of ways you can make his life better. Trust me, you'll feel better knowing you're doing all you can, and he will come around (men are easy that way). If you want your marriage to work, trust me, this will work.
2007-02-21 18:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will help in that you can focus on getting back on track and decide what you want. That may be staying married and starting fresh or it may be making the split official and permanent. Have you thought about making a partial split. Try separate bedrooms and living your life as roommates. Maybe a little bit of separation but not outright living in separate houses will help.
2007-02-21 19:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people separate for a time. But continue to try to work out their problems. You need to see a marriage counselor. A professional who can help you two work through all of your problems. You have a son together and it is all ways best for a child to have their parents together if possible.
2007-02-21 18:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Janst 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't tried counseling do that first. Sometimes separation works other times it just literally separates you more from each other.
2007-02-21 18:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by Gremlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it will make it worse to separate why not try marrige cousnling because your son needs his mom and dad together unless you two fight in front of the baby
2007-02-21 18:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, "salemgirl1972" has the right mind set. If I was you I would go pick up a copy of those books.
2007-02-21 18:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋