My crazy cousin in trying to get involed with me I I'l ready decided to leave it alone but I sort of might break his feelings. should I reconsider? But I already have a boyfreind and I am olny fifthteen? HELP!!
2007-02-21 09:50:10 · 15 answers · asked by Tish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being in a relationship to not hurt someone's feelings isn't a very good reason to be in a relationship I don't think. Don't you want to be in a romantic relationship because you want to be, not because someone is guilting you into it? Your cousin is pushing your boundaries which is not okay. He's put you into a very awkward position and into one in which you will have to hurt his feelings. Don't feel too bad about hurting his feelings, it isn't your fault. He is putting you in a SUPER uncomfortable position, knowing that you already have a boyfriend, are only 15, and pushing you.
You are also only 15 and NO ONE has any business saying they want to marry you. You need to have time to explore your options, become your own person, learn to be you, and you can't do that if you are married at 15.
Lastly, you need to make sure you are not leading him on. Unfortunately to some people, just talking to them leads them on. You may need to just let him cool off, and not have him talk to you until he's decided to act in a way that doesn't hurt you. Be firm, don't waver in your decision, and be very clear that you do NOT want a relationship. It's like pulling the bandaid off quickly, it hurts a lot less than pulling it slowly. It might hurt him more now, but it's better than unfairly prolonging his pain. Unfortunately, he sounds like an emotional mess and probably isn't acting very rationally. good luck.
2007-02-22 10:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Vida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your cousin is crazy! It is call incest. He is attracted to you. But this is wrong. There are laws against relatives getting married because of birth defects of the children they may have. You are the smarter one in this situation. Continue on with your life. Sooner or later he will find someone.
2007-02-21 17:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a second cousin tell me he was in love with me and that he went to the library to see if second cousins could get married. It was just creepy and I haven't seen him in about 10 years.
2007-02-21 19:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by nina-h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't consider anything. Tell him no and it may be a good idea to talk to a family member about it. Kissing cousins is not the way to go.
2007-02-21 17:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by lil_nautica_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having children with close family members tends to create abnormal children. Genetics at work.
2007-02-21 17:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is illegal to marry your first cousin. It is also illegal in most states to have sexual relations with a first cousin. In EVERY state it is illegal to have sex with a 15 year old. Tell your parents about this IMMEDIATELY - and distance yourself from your cousin as much as possible.
2007-02-21 18:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would have to have your blood checked out first in case you could hurt any future children that you may want to have do that first and then go from there ok .
2007-02-21 17:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your cousin? Does he know you're a minor oh and YOUR COUSIN? I agree with you HE IS CRAZY!
2007-02-21 17:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by maggie209 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about his feelings? He is screwed up in the head.
2007-02-21 17:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maury asap!
they love people like you to be on there shows it gives us regular people something to thank god were nothing like that...
2007-02-21 17:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋