is it wrong to be proud of yourself as long as you dont brag?

Answer 1

Wrong according to who? Do YOU feel it's wrong? If not, it's not.

Answer 2

Absolutely. There is nothing wrong with being proud. But if you are "proud" and brag about it, it is as though you just want others to think you are proud or that you are trying to convince yourself that you are proud. Being proud is something that pretty much shows on a person naturally.

Answer 3

The first thing to do is determine what exactly we mean by 'pride', so we're talking about the same thing. The dictionary I use lists a number of definitions, so let's consider them separately:

1) Unreasonable and inordinate self-esteem (personified as one of the deadly sins).

Well... I don't think there are very many people who would argue that being unreasonable was a good thing. And certainly if you ascribe to the religious framework that calls it a sin, then there's little more to be said. The Greeks would tend to call this kind of pride 'hubris'. They didn't care much for it either.

2) The trait of being spurred on by a dislike of falling below your standards.

Certainly there's nothing wrong with having standards. Quite the contrary - a person with low or no standards is usually disrespected as being a person with low or no ability to correspond with those standards. Of course, standards that aren't enforced are no standards at all. So presumably just about everyone doesn't like falling beneath them.

Pride in this sense must therefore refer mostly to being driven by this dislike. I would tend to argue that being driven or obsessed by anything is probably not the best idea in the world, if not outright unhealthy. So although this kind of pride might not be too bad, I suspect the sense in which it is most used is to describe a person 'too proud' to do things, limiting their own options, and otherwise not being happy.

3) A feeling of self-respect and personal worth. Satisfaction with your (or another's) achievements.

I would not heed anyone who said that a well-earned feeling of self-respect and personal worth was a bad thing. If the pride you feel is of this sense, I would encourage you to feel as much of it as possible. I'm reminded of an interplay on the short-lived show 'Joan of Arcadia':

GOD: Stop underachieving. Stop squandering the potential I gave you. Have some pride.
JOAN: What about humility?
GOD: Humility isn't actually humility unless there's something you're good enough at to be humble about.

So, in summary, pride is probably a bad thing when its false and limiting, but seems to be a great thing when it's merited and empowering. Nobody much cares for boasting, but most people like to know people who have something to boast about. Be proud AND humble - the best of both worlds!

If you have something to be proud about and don't use it against other people, then I say GO with that feeling! ( :

Answer 4

Absolutely not. If anything, that's the way to do it -- don't brag about your accomplishments, but be happy with yourself.

After all, what's the alternative? To think you're never good enough? That, no matter what you accomplish, you could have done it better? Sorry, but life's a little too short for that.

Answer 5

Be proud of yourself and nothing wrong with sharing with others how proud of yourself you are if they ask about it.

Answer 6

Its called, healthy self-esteem. You need it to maintain constructive motivation. However, it can grow into narcissism if not kept in balance.

Answer 7

No confidence is a good thing very few people feel this way.

Answer 8

nah actually its probably a good thing if your on the line between confidence and cocky.

Answer 9

Pride.........you think it...get over it....move on.