SUGGESTIONS NEEDED: How do I reconnect with 2 friends that have drifted away?

Question

2 of my closest friends & I have always had the same relationship status. We dated through school & got married. Then, instead of 3, we were 6.

We married 3 versions of the same abusive man. After several yrs, 1 by 1 we divorced. We had bad marriages & worse divorces. After this, we had Katrina to survive. and we did... TOGETHER.

A yr ago I started dating again. They weren't. They got EXTREMELY jealous of any time I spent with him. I just ignored it & kept alternating my time between my children, him, & them. After it became aparent he & I were going to be serious, I tried coordinating more things for all of us to do together. But they were so jealous.

We actually had an arguement about it. I shouldn't be dating yet. I had only been divorced a year. What kind of ex is it for my kids. etc.

We are no longer close. We rarely see ea other or even talk. We have been ea others' rock for so long. They are like Aunts to my kids. How can I reconnect with them?

Answer 1

There is only one way that you guys can reconnect and that is by reaching out to them. This can be a very difficult time in any relationship whenever our best friends get married or is moving on with their lives. It's not that they maybe jealous of you........it could just be the fear of losing you. They know that sooner or later the relationship is gonna change (when you get married) so they prefer to withdraw from the situation now so that it doesn't hurt so bad when you are gone (married and moved on).

I don't know what the relationship has been like but for someone who was in a similar situation. It's not that I wasn't happy for my friend but just the thought that the friendship would change. We couldn't have the sleepovers anymore, girls night out, call each other at wee hours of the morning etc. So I tried to find other interests so that when she finally got married I would be able to cope. So maybe deep down they are not so jealous...........

What you can do is just call them and have dinner or do something fun. Let them know that they are not "losing you". All the best.