Does anyone believe that once a person cheats they will always cheat or do you believe a person can change? One example, say you had 10 relationships and you cheated in all of them but then start a relationship with someone new and that person you just didn't want to cheat on because they had everything you wanted. Is is possible to stay faithful???
2007-02-21 09:20:33 · 36 answers · asked by Andre 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think people evolve, change and grow up, but I think it's stupid to think that after 10 times cheating, the 11th relationship will be "the one". Cheating isn't due to the person you're with-- it's due to the person you are.
2007-02-21 09:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you include as "cheating". Do you mean they've had non-committed relationships with multiple partners? Just because you're having sex with one person doesn't mean you shouldn't be going out looking for more, as long as it is clear that the relationship is not exclusive. I feel that people who took their time with non-exclusive relationships can certainly "settle down" with one partner at some point; it shouldn't be a problem. But if what you mean is that someone had been in several *committed* and *exclusive* relationships, and each time went out and did stuff behind their partner's back - I would venture a guess that this is just their M/O, and this person is unlikely to change. I don't believe a habitual cheater does it because they have not found "everything they wanted"; in a sense, none of us will EVER find *everything* we want in one person - you have to realize that any relationship will involve compromise, patience and acceptance. A cheater simply "bends the rules" as they see fit; most likely, they don't see their actions as "wrong" - so why would they stop? There's ALWAYS the next best thing around the corner; if they lack an understanding of what committment really is - what would stop them from pursuing this "next best thing" every time they run across it? It's not the lack of temptation that keeps people faithful (temptations are abound) - it is the way each person handles these temptations. If one repeatedly "handles" them by succumbing to them, this is a reliable predictor of the future behavior.
2007-02-21 09:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time repeated cheating is the result of a larger problem. Finding someone you love does not guarantee being faithful, as there are many reasons people choose to cheat. A person who finds it hard to stay committed needs intense therapy as the why this is so. Otherwise the problem does not get resolved and can lead to more cheating.
2007-02-21 09:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if u want to. u can u control life life doesn't control u. when u cheated u know is bad but u want to for some reasons. but now u don't because u believe that u find the right person or basically u love the person so YES u can be faithful
2007-02-21 09:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by I_belong_to_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be possible to stay faithful, but I think there might be moments when it might be really hard. You would just have to stay focused on how much this person means to you and how cheating had effected the other relationships.
2007-02-21 09:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bookworm girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ten times out of eleven a person has cheated and will
stay faithful because they say they found the right one.
Well the odds of the person staying failtful is10percent
out of 100, so it is possible but probably not probable.
2007-02-21 14:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if they cheated in all of their relationships that u are just fooling yourself thinking they will treat u differently, because at one time or another all these people who got cheated on were special to them, think they all had everything that person wanted at one time. we sometimes get out ego's involved, tell ourselves they won't cheat on us because we are better than the others, but in reality they will find something they don't like with u after awhile, and they will be out looking for someone new again, because this is who they are, as they say a fool always returns to his or her own folly.
2007-02-21 09:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so worried about Cheating? The only reason a person cheats is because you are not able to except that person for who they are. If they told you that they were going to have sex with someone else, is that cheating? The problem is not the man, it is your moral view on what a man is supposed to act like. We all have sex with different people, thats reality. Good luck!
2007-02-21 09:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by moralityisrelative1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think cheating has anything to do with the other person...They could be dating someone who is "perfect," and the person will still probably cheat becasue they have some unresolved issues in themselves... If those issues are seriously worked out, then maybe they won't cheat anymore. But if they don't examine themselves to find out why they cheat, they will probably keep doing it.
2007-02-21 09:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Deedra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible . Only if that person truly has found everything he wanted in a women . If all he thinks about is pu**y then he can not and will not be faithful . GOOD LUCK ! It goes the same way for a women .
2007-02-21 09:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋